Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2012 9:32 am
Post subject: i have a bfp!!!!
Me and oh had sex 21th oct by 9dpo i used fr and got a poss on the test i tested cuz i just didnt feel right. i have been preg 5 times now after trying over 6 years 3 mc. i do have a little girl . we are really in shock i go from 33 day to 50day i had a mc a few months ago i had to have a d and c. me and oh then set a date to get married 5 oct next year its all booked i have got my wedding dress and everything . OH is not very happy as we said we will wait till after the wedding. oh boy i did not expect to ovulate on day 13 or 14 0r 15 i think he will come round. i think the d&C as made me ovulate very early. never in all the years of ttc has it ever been early most of the time its on day 25DAY to 45DAY i feel really sad cuz its not happy new and my mum will kill me cuz she as paid £1300 for my wedding dress. i think the family will be disserpointed with us thats how i feel. i will be happy anyway if no one eles is. xx
Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2012 9:43 am
Sod them I say if they can't be happy for you when you've got wonderful news after trying for so long I'd be furious if anyone said anything negative I'd like to hope your mum will be so thrilled she's getting a grandchild that she won't even mention the dress
Anyway you'll be due in early July sometime won't you ? So by October you could well fit in it anyway
Congratulations anyway , i'm really pleased for you xx
Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2012 9:54 am
thank you hun thats really nice. x OH said we cant do both so if i have to pick. it will be the baby all the way. i said we can get married anytime i dont care. hes just worried how we are going to manage with money and stuff like that. but you get by. xx
Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2012 10:04 am
I think babies are as expensive as you make them There are ways of spending very little and they don't need half the stuff you think they do :)Do you not still have baby things from your daughter as well ?
Maybe you'll find you can afford both ?
Perhaps relatives would chip in and pay for some of the wedding stuff instead of buying presents ?
I suppose it depends on if you want a really big day though, as its the same with weddings you can do it on a budget and have a great day or you can really blow the bank
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2012 7:38 pm
With 11+m notice - you will more than likely be able to move your wedding over a few months if it makes you happier - but I see no reason why you can't do both - like someone already said - babies are only expensive if you make it so - weddings the same. And if your family are disappointed that you are pregnant after the long journey you've been on - then that is a real shame. I'd be quite angry to be honest. Same with your DH choosing between a baby and a wedding. Mean as it sounds and I certainly don't mean offence, but you've been together for so long, why is the wedding suddenly so important that he'd put it above a baby that you've obviously been trying for for a while and been through MCs and a D&C too. You can't control some things in life, and if now is the right time for you to be lucky and have a baby - then grasp it with both hands - you never know when it will come again!
Best of wishes hun xxx
Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2012 8:35 am
thanks for your replys. its all going to be ok. we will be getting married and will be having a baby. dh was so worried. i understand where he was coming from!! we have no money that is true! with what we pay for child care and for us to pay the billes we are just keeping are heads above warter. think he was just sceard. but we have talked alot over the weekend. i am happy we have both come round to the fact we are going to have another baby and it will all be ok. xxxx ps i have phoned the wedding dress shop and she is getting my dress in the next size up so i should fit into it. thank you all love tink xxx