Posted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 1:17 pm
Post subject: antenatal care when pregnant after loss?
literally just found out i am about four weeks pregnant.
lost my baby girl eight hours after birth in november.
just wondered if anybody knows or has any thoughts on what my antenatal care will be like this time? nothing showed on any scans or monitoring with my girl, we only knew something was wrong in labour.
i also don't know the dates as didn't have a cycle after giving birth.
will i have to go pay privately for a dating scan? (bit annoying if so!)
what about any tests or anything?
OH insists they'll keep a really close eye on us this time but i think the absolute opposite - i reckon i won't get any more care than i did last time to be honest.
i don't know if anyone on here is pregnant after loss of any sort, but your input would be really appreciated. even guesses would be great! thankyou!
Posted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:18 pm
I really dont know hun, just didnt want to read and run. I remember a lady on here before who gave birth to a sleeping baby and went on to have a healthy pregnancy and birth.
I would express all your concerns to your doctor and get a midwife appointment asap so you can get some support.
Posted: Mon Jan 20, 2014 6:18 pm
Sorry to hear you lost your little girl it must be heartbreaking for you both.
As Rachey said there was a lovely lady who used to come on here who too lost her little one. I believe for her second they gave a c-section if I remember rightly and all worked out well.
I guess you will be monitored more perhaps with consultant care. I really hope everything goes well for you.
Posted: Mon Jan 20, 2014 6:59 pm
that's good news!!
i think maybe, maybe they may induce or c-section me to make sure everyone who needs to be there is so we know when it will happen. i hope so. be quite nice to know when i'm going to give birth, i think.
i hope so.
i don't know if there's a way to check this time though.
she passed away as she couldn't breathe on her own due to small lungs.
not sure if that's something they'll be able to see or test for though.
even when they were taking blood from her head whilst i was in labour (her heart rate was dropping inbetween contractions) they were all coming back fine.
so i'm not so confident!
thankyou, that means a lot banoffee thanks so much.
ps, i'm really sorry to read about your latest pregnancy,
i wish you so much luck for the future and send you all of my thoughts and prayers
Posted: Tue Jan 21, 2014 12:14 pm
nds sorry to hear about your loss. I know in babies that they know will be premature they normally give steriod to the mother to help babys lungs to develop a few weeks before they are due. hopefully they will do this with you as standard just to cover you. may be worth asking about. I have not lost one except M/C's but have got quite a few medical issues i have been informed that i will not only be seen but the midwife but also a doctor through out the pregnancy. I would think that with you case history you will be in the same boat as me.
Posted: Tue Jan 21, 2014 3:06 pm
Nds so sorry for loss of daughter it must such a mix of emotions
I presume they would put under consultant lend care and if they don't I think your be within your rights to ask to be.
I'd m/c before having twins one our twins was smaller than other and we saw specialist that done more detail scan so I'm guessing they may give you more detail scans .
Our girls are 2 years old 6months
Posted: Fri Jan 24, 2014 1:00 pm
I'm so sorry to hear about your little girl.
I would expect you to have a greater level of care this time round, I'm sure you could push for it if it wasn't forth coming.
With the dating, I was booked in for a dating scan earlier as we couldn't give dates either, I wouldn't expect you to have to pay for a private one.
All the best with this pregnancy. x