Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2007 2:19 pm
this seems like a very odd request to me, I can't understand your motives at all. If you simply have a lot of love to give then there are lots and lots of ways of improving children's lives without taking this convoluted approach. Or, you could spend all this time in working on a 'real' relationship. Parenting is not just fertilisation - so many children live already not within the 'normal' boundaries of a loving family, but I have never heard of this being a deliberate goal from the outset. I can understand parents who split after having children, but to actually plan to raise a child in that environment? why? It seems very selfish to me.
I don't mean to sound harsh, or unsympathetic to your situation - but something feels very very odd and wrong about this request.
have you considered adoption? if you feel that you would be a great Dad, and are willing and able to look after a child alone, then there are plenty of desperate children in the world who could benefit.