Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 12:15 pm
Post subject: Looks like we may have to adopt
I know I'm jumping the gun a bit as I haven't had IVF yet but I just wanted to check out the rules for adopting.
I know its only a guideline but it says they base age of the child on the oldest of the couple and dont allow an age gap of more than 45 years.
I'm 34 but DH is 44 so unless we do it now I still won't get the baby my heart longs for. I know thats not all adoption is meant to be about but can't help thinking how would i cope never having a baby
Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 10:45 am
Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 11:51 am
thank you hun
Don't worry, if you have your own they will still let you adopt The process is quite long & I don't want to depress you but every case is different. From the time we applied to the time we were approved to adopt it was almost 2 years & then we have had a further 1 year & 5 months wait to be matched to a little one. As you can see it is definatley not an overnight process & it is very emotionally draining! Goodluck if you do go for it but be prepared for alot of waiting & of course obtrusive questions. It is worth it in the end though
Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 12:51 pm
We have been looking into adoption after 2 years of TTC with no luck, and it nice to hear that youre journey has finally paid off. Can I ask did you adopt from your own country or from abroad, we were thinking of adopting from China, and I was wondering if that takes longer??
I bet you can't wait to have your little boy home with you =]
Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:38 pm
Congrats on your bfp
We adopted from our own country (UK). I have heard it can take longer to adopt abroad due to immigration paperwork on top off the adoption process. If you want to adopt from abroad (and you are in the UK) then you just need to contact an agency and do it through them, I think it may be easier that way. I guess now you have your bfp you won't be looking into it but goodluck if in the future you go for it