AskBaby Talk > Nappies, Changing and Potty Training > help, my 4 & half year old still poos in nappies
Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 8:03 pm
Post subject: help, my 4 & half year old still poos in nappies
my 4 and a half year old boy still poos in nappies, he will only wear one when he needs a poo but if i refuse to get one he simple doesnt go and then hes constipated and i cant do that again. he was fully toilet trained for wees a 2yrs and he did it his self hassle free. he has had constipation problems from birth and at least once a month i have to use laxatives. i have tried beggin and bribing with everything and he wont swap a nappy poo for anything in the world, he has had musical pottys reward charts. i even offered to read him his favourite story while he went to the loo, nothin works. he has always gone to nusrsery for bout 2 hours but this september he goes to primary school full day, what if he needs to go. please help, ill try anything
Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:12 pm
when he goes in the nappy is he crying or anything... his using it as a sercuirty thing.... i would throw nappies away for good and tell him there is no more for him and he needs to go big boy toilet cause all big boys at school will be using it.. give him the book to read and let him try alone
Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 10:12 pm
My son(about to turn 4)sounds exactly the same as yours...he won't poo on the loo and asks for a nappy. He has had problems with constipation since he was a baby and, like you, he regularly has laxatives(Movicol Paediatric Plan - Would recommend it).
He was referred to a specialist doctor who told me to leave him in pants, let him poo in them and then get him to clean himself up. We perservered for about 4 months but it was so stressful for both of us that we gave up and went back to using nappies.
He used to get very upset when he needed to do a poo but now is a lot better but still won't do it on the loo. We've just been to see another specialist who told us that her own 4 year old son still uses a nappy to poo! She told me that she's not worried and that they just grow out of it. I think there's probably a lot of truth in that.
My son is also starting school in September and I am just hoping that it won't ever happen at school(he has pretty good control of when he does it!)
It's reassuring to find out that someone else is in the same boat as us!
Good luck to you.
Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2008 7:06 pm
That seems like a very difficult problem and very traumatic for you children. As a primary school teacher I know that lots of children arrive to us with different issues including toileting probs. Definately let the teacher know what is going on and in my experience children often learn from example. If your boys see their peers using the loo (which they do very openly at that age!) then hopefully it will help them to feel more comfortable with the whole thing. Wishing you luck. Bec x
Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 7:56 pm
Another primary teacher here.
My advice is to not make it an issue as much as you can. If he needs a nappy to poo in for now, then so be it . . . he isn't alone by any means.
I've come across quite a few children (always boys) who have this difficulty in their early years and into school.
You may well find he goes all day at school not having a poo and will have one when he comes home. But you definitely need to let the teacher know as sometimes he will need to go but will not go in the toilet so the teacher may need to ring you and you'll have to take him home for a bit to do it at home. DO NOT BE ASHAMED or anything like that - the teacher is bound to have come across it before (and if not show her this post by all means!!)
4 or 5 is still very young - don't forget many many boys are still in nappies overnight until they are 7 or 8. And I do mean many.
If he has experienced constipation so often in his little life then he is going to have toiletting issues. But it will change over time - when he is ready.
Good luck at big school little man!!