Ok for husband to go away at week 33/34? opinions please

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RHL
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Posted: Tue Mar 18, 2008 8:51 pm 
Post subject: Ok for husband to go away at week 33/34? opinions please
Hello
Would be grateful for your honest advice regarding our dilemma!

One of my husband's best friends has invited him to his stag do in August which will be abroad and will mean he is away for 3 nights. He's in a big dilemma about whether to go as he's worried about leaving me when it's getting close to D-Day. (I will be around 34 weeks by then.) I am pretty easy about him going (at the moment) but obviously don't know how I'll feel nearer the time Confused

Would you be ok with your other half going away or do you think it's too risky?
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 8:18 am 
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well, i wouldnt want him to go if i was so close to due date, what if you have your little one early!!! but thats just my opinion. xx
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 8:29 am 
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After about 34 weeks, i asked my partner not to drink, and to always have his phone on him, but a couple of times he had a few pints after work, and came home a bit drunk LOL!!

I think its personal choice, there is a very small chance of you having the baby at that stage, but you might be feeling clingy as a lot of women do (me included). However, if something did happen whilst he was away, he would never forgive himself for missing it. How does he feel??

I guess you could weigh everything up:

How far away would he be?
Could he get back easily?

At the end of the day, only you know how you're going to feel hun xx
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 12:21 pm 
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I think it is true that it is personal choice... The doctors says the baby should have a "due month" as aposed to a date as it can come at anytime.. I suppose your little one will come when ready.

I think I would feel uncomfortable with it too.

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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 1:59 pm 
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i would be happier with him around, like someone else said i think 4 wks before due date my other half wont be drinking and we will be prepared to get to the hospital at any time.
he needs to ask himself what would dissapoint him more, missing a stag night or missing the birth of his baby. (but it is how you feel as well) .
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 3:10 pm 
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you want honest???? Rolling Eyes

i'd honestly be going up the walls, screaming blue murder!!!! lol!! Shocked

i'd be wanting my man with me, even when i wasnt pregnant i hated my fella being away anything after a day!!! Sad

lol!!!

im needy, what can i say??? Embarassed lol!!

but thats me!

kimberley xo
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 3:28 pm 
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i would not want him to go either! I am pretty laid back with my other half and him going away camping for weekends as he trains air cadets, but that close to D Day I would not want him to go!

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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 3:35 pm 
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im the same my husband had an accident in oct broke both his ankles so he has been out of work i had to give my job up to look after him and the kids as i worked nights he has now been offered a job on the rigs starting next month im 32 weeks pregnant a nd no i will go in to labour while hes away but we cant live like this eney more having no money im so used to going out to get what we want and need so its either have him home and no money or him work away and have our life back im so scared to have the baby on my own his mum says she will come in with me but its not the same but it has to be done xxx
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 4:29 pm 
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Dont think i would be too happy with him goin, but its up to you hunny!!

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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 5:03 pm 
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Hi..You asked for honest opinions..I would go mad if my husband even considered it - it seems you are a lot more chilled than me! Apart from the fact that babies do come early I know what a lot of men get up to on stag weekends (not saying your hubby is like that though, just saying how I'd feel) and I would NOT be happy about him (i.e mine) going away even if I wasn't pregnant! But like I said you sound more relaxed about that sort of thing than I'd be, so good for you. But that close to the end of your pregnancy DOES sound a bit risky, plus you might be feeling a lot more in need of him by then. Good luck whatever you decide xx
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 7:04 pm 
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Wow, didn't expect so many replies, thanks everyone!

I think that we have both been a little naive in thinking that it's unlikely the baby would come so early - obviously it can happen! This baby is the most important thing in my husband's life (well apart from me, LOL!) and there is no way he'd risk missing the birth.

Believe me, I hate it whenever he has to go away, or even when he goes out without me for the night - and if it wasn't for the fact that the friend is a really good bloke who would bend over backwards for his mates (so to speak) I don't think he would have even considered going. Plus it's not quite your usual stag do with strip clubs etc - it's just a group of 6 lads who have been mates for years who don't get together as often as they'd like! Not that I'm making excuses for my hub, am just explaining why he didn't just say no straight off. He's a very sensitive guy, trust me!
Anyway, am sure his friend will understand - just a shame that our scan isn't for a few weeks so we can't tell anyone yet the REAL reason why he won't be able to go Laughing
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