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fwanbear
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 8:31 am 
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Hi all, I'm very new to this site! (Sorry If I Waffle on) Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and my last period was on the 21st July. I am on the Mercilon pill and since that date I have not been taking it very good. I have never missed a day, but it does say it should be take at the same time everyday. Me being me I have had a very stressful 2 months with holidays, birthdays, weddings, funerals etc and sometimes didnt take my pill until 11 o clock at night time. About 7 - 8 hours after I am meant to take it. I have noticed that I have been getting lots of signs of pregnancy, of which including:- Tender breasts, tiredness, eatting everything in sight!, going for alot of wee's! feeling sick, headaches, high sense of smell etc.... I was due to 'come on' on monday as I stopped taking my pill on thursday, I start taking it again this friday. I have not yet 'come on' but am getting back pains and stomach cramps this morning. Could this be signs of pregnancy or me 'coming on' again? I would love nothing more to pregnant! I haven't got the guts to take a test because I don't know when the best time to do one is.

But....My boyfriend says he is not ready to be a dad, but would stay with me and take his responsibilities. Now I know if I am pregnant, he would change his mind completely!

Sorry about the essay!

Fran Confused
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 8:49 am 
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Hi Fwanbear

Yes they could be pregnancy signs or they could be signs of AF coming along, its difficult to say. Maybe its better if you take a test and take it from there.

At least you will know one way or the other. Worrying about it will only delay your AF even more.

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 8:59 am 
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I'm a really nervous person. I've done tests before, but I have never felt like this when I did them. As I speak, I have just had a cup of tea and feel so sick!
I heard that you could still have your AF if you are pregnant. I don't really have anybody to talk to this about at the moment as my sister is pregnant with her second child and everybody hasn't given me the time of day!
I need to suck it up and take that test!!
You watch, I will 'come on' today!

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:07 am 
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Hi Fwanbear

I wish you luck but please take the test,

As I said then you know where you are.

Let us know, hope it comes out as you want it to??

Wishing you all the best

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:15 am 
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As Kirk said, the only way to know is to take a test. I hope you do one soon and you get the result you want. Good luck and welcome to askbaby.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:22 am 
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I hope I get the result I want. The boyfriend keeps ringing up and asking if I have started my AF but I keep answering the same answer. "No" haha
He has just rang and said, he as asked for an extra day's work every week incase I am as we will need to get more money in.
He is adamant I am pregnant. I hope I am.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:42 am 
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Hi Fwan

When are you going to test?
It is best to test ina morning using first urine as this will be stronger in HCG pregnancy hormone that the urine tests detect.

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:48 am 
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In that case I will probably test tomorrow morning, If I get chance to get a test today. If not I will get a test tomorrow. I prefer to test in the mornings. I will let you all know what my results are as soon as I have tested. Fingers crossed for me!

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 10:12 am 
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Hey guys, Well I have just nipped to the loo and found that I have just started my AF. I am heartbroken!

I want nothing more than to have a baby. I don't know what to do now. I am ready to be a mother but my boyfriend is not ready to be a dad. what should I do?

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 10:14 am 
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Hi Fwan

So sorry to hear that but dont give up hope.

If you dont mind me asking how old are you and your boyfriend, and how long have you been together?

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 10:15 am 
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We have been together for 2 years now and He is 21 and I am 19 soon to be 20.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 10:21 am 
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Hi Fwan

So you have plenty of time to be a mum and he has plenty of time to be a dad. I can understand why he isn't ready and I dont think it is something you should necessarily push no matter how frustrating for you.

I wasn't ready to be a mum until I was 31, and my partner didnt start having children til he was 43.

We all develop at different times hun

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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 10:51 am 
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fwanbear I am sorry to hear this was not your time, but as Kirk says, whilst you are more than ready for children (I had my first at 19) it would be unwise to go ahead trying when your boyfriend has made it clear he is not ready to be a father. The best thing you can do is to sit down together and have a talk about it, and see if or when you can try for a baby. This is nothing to do with age in my opinion, but just about what you both want. If you got pregnant on purpose and he is not ready he will resent you. Hope it works out for you both.
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 11:08 am 
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I would never get pregnant on purpose, I don't think I would have the guts to.
I have sat down with him before and he has said he is not ready because he does not want to lose his youth. We want to get married but he wants to have children before we do, yet we want to get married within the next couple of years so I thought around about now would be a good idea. I never get men!
He said he would be more comfty having children in the next couple of years or even a years time. Men just don't understand that if you have children so close to your wedding you will want a good body! haha

I think I should sit down with him and talk things through.

Thank you everyone for your help and advice!
x Franxx
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Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 11:24 am 
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Hi Fran
I am sorry to hear the outcome was not the one you wished for, however you still have loads of time in front of you..I think that even though your OH said he was not ready yet to be a dad, he did show a lot of committment by telling you he was going to work extra shifts when he thought you were pregnant, that says a lot about him. You are lucky as many 20 year old don't think that way...I am sure everything you wish for will come when time is right.
I wish you all the best. Have a talk with him tonight about everything.
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