Posted: Mon Jan 20, 2014 9:17 pm
Post subject: conping?
i miscarried about 3 months ago i really cant get it out of my mind,constantly missing "bump" me and my partner refer to our unborn baby as bump because we never got as far as to choosing a name and unfortunately never got to give it.i dont understand why me,although i cut down,i was still smoking and kind of blame myself.it has left my depression from bad to worse.i dont understand how to cope.i am wanting to try again despertely although i am scared to after my loss. how do i get the courage,strnth to try again.
Posted: Fri Jan 31, 2014 3:02 am
Chloe I wish I could give you advise but I am right there with you. We miscarried the last week of October. We have ttc conceive for almost 3 years. My sister in law miscarried a month before me and she is already 12 weeks pregnant. I have another sister in law who is due in less than a week and another sister in law who told me she is going to try for baby #2 (she conceived baby #1 her 1st month trying while we had been trying months).
I am lost and confused. My DH and I wanted our baby so bad. It is so hard, everyone around us is pregnant. I thought this last time was finally our time. We have had two failed IVFs, got pregnant with the frozen transfer which I miscarried. I am going to try an iui but I am not sure how I am going to get thru it. The heart ache is unbearable. I guess I am getting thru this by knowing that I can't give up. I want a baby so much and I want to give my husband a child. We have so much emotionally, physically and financially invested in this to give up. There are days when I just want to bawl especially when I hold a newborn or hear a baby crying, sometimes I do have to excuse myself and bawl because my heart aches because I wan that for us. I just don't understand why it is so hard for us to conceive. Hang in there. Things have to get easier.
Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2014 5:09 pm
Post subject: I should have one by now...
This whole "TTC and waiting" thing STINKS! I should have a two week old baby with me right now! All of my friends have gotten pregnant and have had healthy babies. My wife has had to go to 7 baby showers since her D and C last December. She thinks she is letting me down and it's not fair for her. So, miscarriages are fairly common and yet we are the only one in our group of friends that it has happened to. Don't get me wrong, I would not want any of my friends to go through any of this... it just sucks! Mother's day was tough. People forget very quickly that she was pregnant... and nobody ever asks her how she's feeling etc. I wish this was the month that I can get her pregnant.