Posted: Mon Sep 12, 2011 9:19 am
Post subject: Hi, I'm new and feeling blue
Hi everyone, I'm new to the forum. I've been ttc for 21 months but with no luck I went to the doctor after trying for a year but they said they wouldn't help or look in to the matter until I'd been trying for a year and a half as I'm still in my 20s - I'm 28. I got married last month and thought I'd wait till it was all over before going to the doctor again. I was hoping so bad for a honeymoon baby! As I was at my most fertile when we were on holiday. But after having the feeling I might be pregnant, my period arrived this morning I'm gutted! My husband keeps telling me not to worry and that when it happens it happens...but how long do we keep trying without help?! Sorry to moan about it all but I feel everyone else I know has been getting pregnant without even trying and I can't talk to anyone about it x
Posted: Mon Sep 12, 2011 5:55 pm
Hi hon and welcome to this forum,
Believe me when I say you are not alone in feeling like everyone else is falling pregnant around you and you are not. There are so many women that feel like this and while you don't know when, it should happen for you and your husband. I think you should definitely go back to your doctor because you are in your late 20's and you have been trying for nearly two years. If you doctor won't listen, don't accept that or maybe see another doctor. Ask what the next stage is in seeing if there are any issues with yourself or your husband.
Are your cycles regular and do you know the signs/symptons for where you are in your cycle as I truly believe that if you know when abouts you're ovulation, that can go a long way into speeding up falling pregnant.
All the best and I'm sure this will happen to for you. xTx
Posted: Mon Sep 12, 2011 9:18 pm
I was in the same position. Got married @ 21yrs old and had had a miscarriage the yr previous. We started ttc from when we married and had another 2x m/c's. Gp wouldn't refer us to fertility clinic as we were still young. It took till I was 25yrs to be seen after having tests to show I wasn't ovulating after my last m/c.
Was started on Clomid in March 2010 ( 2months after 1st meeting fertility doc ) and fell pregnant in April 2010. Meds has appeared to sort me out as connived naturally with my 2nd baby.
Ask again to see fertility doc as depending on where u are, it can be a lengthy process!
All the very best ttc. Xx
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Posted: Tue Sep 13, 2011 6:59 am
I would definately go back to your GP, the guide lines for referral are over a year under 35 and 6 months over 35, dont know where he got 18 months from , some GP'd seem to dismiss younger couples because they say well theres plenty of time when reall I think they should do something sooner as you're supposed to be at your most fertile in your 20's As someone else said as it's nearly 2 years now they should definately refer you to a gynae/fertility clinic, for at least the routine blood tests to check you're ovulating and to check your OH's sperm count and maybe do some scans etc, As Ozzy said if you don't ovulate you just won't get pregnant and that can be simply sorted out with clomid . In the meantime while you wait for an appointment ( the target waiting time in my area is under 11 weeks from referral) there are things youi can try if you haven't already such as OPK's or even the clear blue fertility monitor which has good reviews and can tell you your high fertility days as well as when you ov , and just little things like cutting out caffeine and alcohol and taking extra zinc and selenium can help if you haven't already tried that ,Good luck xxx
Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 11:55 am
Thanks for the replies, it's made me feel like there is hope. I need to be more positive on the whole thing! I pretty much gave up alcohol last year and started taking pre pregnancy vitamins. My periods are regular, so I'm not sure what the problem is. Everyone is right, it's now at the stage I have to get it looked into. I'll go back to my GP in the next few weeks and see what can be done to move forward. Hopefully we'll get referred to a specialist in that field, as our local doctor just doesn't seem interested. Being told, just keep trying, it will happen one day is not what I want to hear after nearly 2 years! I suppose having to wait means when we all finally do have children we will appreciate it far more than everyone else! So many people take what they have for granted! Good luck to everyone else too x x x
Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 12:00 pm
Insist on a referral if you go to your GP as he/she will be very limited in what they can do anyway and the gynae consultant can order all the tests and ultrasounds etc. that he might feel you need,it might help to take your other half or mum or someone with you if you feel like you might be fobbed off as they're less likely to try that if you're not alone , good luck, FX you get an appointment soon xx
Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 2:34 pm
Hello and welcome
I have to agree with the other ladies I really think that you should push for a referral to see a gynea whatever your age ttc for over a year is hard enough without being told to go away for another 6 or whatever months!
When you get referred its a very lenghty process so I think the sooner you go back the better!
Come over to the ttc section there are lots of us in there who will try and give you some good advise!
My OH is like that he says not to worry it will happen when its meant to but I think nearly 2 and a half years is long enough to warrant me feeling sad and down when I do get AF each month!!
Good luck to you maybe stick around as we all understand more than any others do xx