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Stephanie1978
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Posted: Sun Oct 30, 2011 9:59 pm 
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Hello, I'm Steph and I'm 33. Me and my husband have been TTC for a long time now. We managed to get pregnant not too long after we tried concieving but 6months into the pregnancy, we lost our little boy. We've been trying since and have managed a few times but have always had misscarriages before 12 weeks. A friend of ours suggested adoption and we liked the idea, so we started searching into it. On two occassions we've had pregnant women who are willing to give us their baby but both times, the mother changed her mind at the last minute Sad Since then we haven't had much look, although we got to foster two little girls once while their mother was ill. But other than that, we haven't had any luck with getting a child. Could anyone please suggest something that could speed things up? I would really like to have a child before I'm 40.

Steph xx
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Posted: Mon Oct 31, 2011 10:14 am 
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ive messaged u hun.xxxx
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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2011 2:50 pm 
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i have nt gt any advice just hope that u get to become parents soon.
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Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 2:17 pm 
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Stephanie1978 wrote:
Hello, I'm Steph and I'm 33. Me and my husband have been TTC for a long time now. We managed to get pregnant not too long after we tried concieving but 6months into the pregnancy, we lost our little boy. We've been trying since and have managed a few times but have always had misscarriages before 12 weeks. A friend of ours suggested adoption and we liked the idea, so we started searching into it. On two occassions we've had pregnant women who are willing to give us their baby but both times, the mother changed her mind at the last minute Sad Since then we haven't had much look, although we got to foster two little girls once while their mother was ill. But other than that, we haven't had any luck with getting a child. Could anyone please suggest something that could speed things up? I would really like to have a child before I'm 40.

Steph xx


As for me, this emotional roller coaster when biological mother changes her mind all of a sudden is the worst thing about adoption. it seems for me that for prospective parents this feeling may be compared to those experienced by bio mother at miscarriage. This is a great stress! Lots of time has passed and I hope, Stephanie, that you have finally become a mother to a wonderful child or even to as you were dreaming about! It would be great to hear from you because our stories have much in common!
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 11:45 am 
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Katherine01 wrote:
Stephanie1978 wrote:
Hello, I'm Steph and I'm 33. Me and my husband have been TTC for a long time now. We managed to get pregnant not too long after we tried concieving but 6months into the pregnancy, we lost our little boy. We've been trying since and have managed a few times but have always had misscarriages before 12 weeks. A friend of ours suggested adoption and we liked the idea, so we started searching into it. On two occassions we've had pregnant women who are willing to give us their baby but both times, the mother changed her mind at the last minute Sad Since then we haven't had much look, although we got to foster two little girls once while their mother was ill. But other than that, we haven't had any luck with getting a child. Could anyone please suggest something that could speed things up? I would really like to have a child before I'm 40.

Steph xx


As for me, this emotional roller coaster when biological mother changes her mind all of a sudden is the worst thing about adoption. it seems for me that for prospective parents this feeling may be compared to those experienced by bio mother at miscarriage. This is a great stress! Lots of time has passed and I hope, Stephanie, that you have finally become a mother to a wonderful child or even to as you were dreaming about! It would be great to hear from you because our stories have much in common!




If we talk about domestic adoption, this is a very sad fact for prospective adopters that a birth mother may change her mind any time. And the law will always be at her side even if she changes her mind after adoption. if you prefer your adoption to be final, itís better go internationally. No roller coaster, but a lot of waiting, paper work, check ups.
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Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2016 9:17 am 
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Stephanie1978, for my family international adoption was the best choice. As soon as we started talking about adoption, we decided to go to Bulgaria where we were matched with our dd Mira.
You ask how to speed things up? Follow your adoption lawyer or facilitator instructions thoroughly, collect and sign in all papers properly. Moreover, if youíre ready to adopt a child with health conditions, the process shall be quicker.

I hope things will work for you.

Have you already applied?
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