Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 2:12 pm
Post subject: Miscarriage
I miscarried 2 years and 4 months ago, there isn't one day that I don't think about the worst day of my life and how my life would have been. My baby would have been 2 years and 8 months old today, there will always be an empty space in my heart. As the years go by it gets easier but the pain never stops. Will the pain and the emptiness go away???? I will always blame myself because not knowing why and how it happens will always bother me. I know everyone says that no one could have stopped it and that is is nobody"s fault I still feel it is my fault I could have taken better care of myself and not stressed so much. My heart goes out to every single Mom that had to go through this and every Parent who lost a child, I know your pain I carry it with me every day. Not a single Person can tell you that life goes on and the pain will get better because they haven't been through this and if they have they don't know what their talking about because nothing can fill that empty feeling and the sadness that you carry with you day by day.
Posted: Thu Mar 19, 2015 7:42 am
Its really very painful for a mother when this type of things happen. And that too because of our carelessness. It feels very sad whenever we think of it.
Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 11:05 am
Hun, I'm so very sorry for your loss. They say counselling may help through and they give really good tips. Also call the miscarriage association, they are good to talk to. Some pieces of advice:
It's ok to take time to yourself and be anti social for a while. You'll find yourself crying every so often, just let it all out. Climb into bed if you feel like it and scream if you want to.
Go for walks. Alone and also with your partner. It allows you to talk with each other more openly.
The men get over it more quickly. You were the one carrying the little baby and had already started to bond. No matter how early, you would no doubt have been excited and had hopes and dreams for your little one. It's difficult to accept that the man doesn't have the same depth of feelings but they are hurting too.
Mark your memory somehow.
Also try to go to a remembrance service.
Finally, time is the greatest healer. Dates are sharp in your memory now and you may find people announcing pregnancies with what should have been around your due date which is hard.
I finally had DE IVF in Ukraine and I'm 34 weeks so hopefully you will get there eventually! Definitely go for counselling though.