Posted: Wed Oct 30, 2013 9:49 am
Hello ladies, having a bit of a bad day. Tried to talk to hubby about what next last night and he is not ready to talk about it whereas I feel like I need a plan to go on. Tried to talk to him about the possibility of doner eggs but he isn't keen to start talking about it yet. He wants us to try naturally again for a while cos we managed to get preg on own, but I just think it took five years and 1 failed ivf cycle before that happened and I can't see it happening again and if it does would it end any differently. The ivf failed cos of poor egg quality and the pregnancy ended probably down to quality as well. He is looking at the success rates and I don't think he wants to pin all our hopes on ivf whereas I think that will still give us a better chance than on own.
Posted: Wed Oct 30, 2013 11:04 am
I got a very strong BFP on Friday 4 weeks after our M/C We went to the Drs today and they have confirmed it Fingers crossed its 3rd time lucky for us
There is nothing the Drs can do at this stage as were only 4 wks 5 days
She has said that its unlikely that we will have another loss so soon but if we do they will do a lot of test ect
She also said that due to it being a natural conception no need to take the cyclogiest ?sorry carnt spell
Im so scared if im honest with you.
Just hoping and praying that this is it not sure I could handle going through another loss so soon not even sure how we managed it as only bed once on my Birthday Just going take each day as it comes for now please keep everything crossed for me
Posted: Wed Oct 30, 2013 4:17 pm
Omg Anna congratulations Im keeping everything crossed for you x
Faye good luck for your scan on Monday. x
Gillym I know it might seem easy for me to say at the moment but Ive been through 3 losses myself and it does get easier, hopefully hubby will soon be prepared to talk about the next step. x
Ttc since December 2007!
Posted: Thu Oct 31, 2013 1:46 am
Anna congratulations. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.
Gillym hopefully your plan will get laid out before you guys soon.
We haven't even had our D&C yet and I am wanting to know our next steps. I am devastated and I feel like nothing will even begin to help mend my heart till I know I can have a healthy child. I wanted this baby so bad. My in laws drove down to see us yesterday and offered to take over are infertility payments so we can keep trying. My husband is a proud man and works hard to provide for me and I am not sure he will allow them to do this. My heart tells me I have to try IVF one more time. Not sure what the dr will say abt this. Not sure my body and heart can try more than one more time (if we do it will be spring). DH told his family he is ready to pursue adoption but at this moment I am not sure my heart could stand the years of waiting to bring a child home. At least with IVF I feel like I am doing something to get a child. I think with adoption I would feel helpless waiting for each call and update on our adoption status.
Wishing all of you the best and the babies your hearts desire.