Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 10:47 pm
My OH left sticky notes with wee msgs on them around the house, directing me into bathroom here I found a candle lit bathroom, big bubble bath & music. After bath he directed me (using more sticky notes) into bedroom, more candles and him lying wilting! Lol! It was one of the most romantic things hes ever done! That was fun & different instead of the usual bd'ing and lgs in ir stuff, lol! We also do kinky stuff these days. Before 50 shades we maybe experimented with handcuffs, blindfolds etc... Now we have more adventurous kinky fun.
Just change it up a bit in a way you are comfortable with.
TTC Baby #1 since Sept 2008
Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 7:49 am
saucy texting flirting , doing the deed somewhere unsual , watch something a bit risque before bedtime
remember to have sex just for fun sometimes and not always just to get pregnant ,try and arrange romantic meals or a nice day out for times when you think you'll be oving so you're in the right mood anyway ,
maybe tell the OH you're not going to "try" this month as that always seems to perk them up
If you normally use OPK's then ditch them for a month as they put so much pressure on you to get the timing right and yet without them your body will usually give you clues anyway as a lot of women get a surge in interest, but I've found that worrying over those two lines and when the best time will be just has the opposite effect
It is hard though after a while isn't it ? I know I struggled with trying to just go with it and not plan things , but really you can do whatever takes your fancy for most of the month BD wise and even baby making sex doesn't have to be flat on your back with your legs up in the air afterwards xx
Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 8:40 am
I don't think about TTC at all anymore and we just have fun. Sometimes and I know it's hard we just have to let go of the things that are stressing us out. You've go to feel sexy yourself and maybe wear some nice underwear such will give you that boost. Go on a date where you get ready separately and meet up.
Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 10:18 am
Perhaps book a night away somewhere to make it more like a treat than a chore? A nice meal out and a plush hotel bed Nice underwear can be fun too - especially if he doesn't know it's coming! Or - if you don't!
Sounds daft but when my DH and I were stressed (not related to TTC) and found sex had become somthing we did every few days out of habit - we actually went on a sex ban for a while (in the end was nearly 2 full months!) and then one evening after a really nice meal we were like a newly dating couple again, unplanned, just felt in the mood and it was really nice and 'refreshing' - rather than same old same old. Maybe if you are having sex so regularily for TTC give it a break for a while - even just a couple of weeks, forget the TTC for that time and see if it just changes the outlook on sex when you do fall back into the mood
Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 1:57 pm
I have just listened to all three fifty shades of grey think that is my problem would love to be more like Ana. Hubby doesnt have a problem he would bd every night. would love to go away but would not be able to get anyone to do the animals(live on a farm). on a positive doc has today put us forward for IVF.