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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 12:09 pm 
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Generally just sick of life atm. My daughter has been ill for almost a month solid, my morning sickness etc isn't as bad as it was but I still don't feel well enough to get on with simple tasks like housework. And to top it all off I feel so alone.
The only person I classed as a good friend never speaks to me anymore and instead has it all over facebook how she has this new found best friend.. feels worse as this girl who she has decided to become great friends with all of a sudden is a girl who threatened to "beat my baby out of me" when I was pregnant with my daughter. I can't forgive behavior like that even though this girl has "changed" it just hurts that the only friend I seemed to have has no interest in our friendship anymore.

Even when we were close it was always me paying for her to visit or driving up to her etc (she lives 100 miles away)
I just feel like I've been used and I feel like none of my friends have ever been friends without using me for something. Any relationship should surely be two way?

I'm just really down today so apologies for the depressing post. I just wish I had someone to talk to other than my oh..
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 4:37 pm 
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Awww Sad *hugs* Sorry you're feeling low - and pregnancy hormones aren't going to be helping either Sad

Are there any groups you can take your LO to to meet new mummies and new friends if your other friend isn't around? Or are there any hobbies you do that you could perhaps meet people through - groups or facebook pages even? Maybe craft fairs or swimming or?

Or are there work colleagues (if you work) that you could arrange to go for a coffee with to catch up outside of work and make a new close friend that way?

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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 4:56 pm 
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That's the horrible thing. I'm self employed so don't ever see anyone. I don't know why but I find it so difficult to click with people so when I lose a friend I really jelled with its really upsetting. I don't really have any hobbies, apart from playing games on the PlayStation lol and baking which is my job.

I'm my own worst enemy. I'm so shy and have no confidence in myself. I tried going to groups but all the other mums were much older than me, were married and I feel they looked down at me because I look a lot younger than I am. Im going to start going again because I literally have no friends now.

I would be happy with just even one friend.. obviously I have associates but nobody I can talk to if I'm having a bad day.. obviously that's not what I want a friend for lol but I mean I have nobody that I would ever pick up the phone just for a nattering. With all the people I know it's more we arrange stuff every few months to do something with the kids and it's always a bit awkward.

Am I the only one in this situation or is it normal for us to lose most of our good friends after having kids? Everything is getting to me today Crying or Very sad
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 10:01 pm 
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What about ur hubby Hun? It sucks that ur feeling so rough. I know that when I suffered from awful sickness for about 14 weeks it really began to take its toll and got me down, hopefully you will get a bit of an energy boost soon and things will pick up.
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 9:00 am 
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Yeh oh has been really supportive but everyone needs a close friends to confide in.. and yeh emotionally and mentally the sickness is getting me down. I just really hope it's gone by Christmas I will be almost 14 weeks by then and the sickness went with Ava at bang on 14 weeks I think. But I don't remember being this sick with Ava so it could last longer.. I hope it doesn't as I want to get back to my normal life and enjoy food again. Apologies for having a moan I just needed to get it all off my chest cuz I've been really upset for the last few days xx
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 9:04 am 
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Yeh oh has been really supportive but everyone needs a close friends to confide in.. and yeh emotionally and mentally the sickness is getting me down. I just really hope it's gone by Christmas I will be almost 14 weeks by then and the sickness went with Ava at bang on 14 weeks I think. But I don't remember being this sick with Ava so it could last longer.. I hope it doesn't as I want to get back to my normal life and enjoy food again. Apologies for having a moan I just needed to get it all off my chest cuz I've been really upset for the last few days xx
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 6:23 pm 
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So sorry you're feeling so down. I sometimes know how you feel. Myself and OH moved to a new area 8 years ago and haven't really met anyone local. We tend to stick to old friends who live between 10 and 70 miles away, and we see them every couple of months. I do miss just being able to pop out for a coffee with someone and have a natter. If you're shy it is really hard to meet people I think. I went to a few fitness classes, but found that everyone was already in groups and talking to each other, and I couldn't just walk up to someone and say hi. That just isn't me. Luckily I've met a few friends through work who I go out with occasionally but I wouldn't say we're close. There is a website called citysocialising.com which seems quite good for meeting people in similar situations.

Sorry I've not been much help really as in a similar position, but hopefully once you start feeling less sick and your hormones settle down you'll start feeling better about things.

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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 8:10 am 
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Thank you heath, I might try that!! Well this girl has well and truly hurt me. No going to go into it but she's made it clear our friendship means nothing to her over the last few weeks and last night was the final straw. It's not all doom and gloom though as I've started talking to a friend I lost contact with and we click like we did years ago. She lives miles away but it's just nice to chat like no time has passed and when I visit my home town we have said we will go for some lunch with the kids. She has a little boy the same age as Ava and she's also expecting her second so it's nice we have a lot of things in common still. But I'll definitely check out that city socialising! Thanks ladies! Xx
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