Devastated :'( (Long one sorry)

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EmmaSharonMiasMummy
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2012 12:15 pm 
Post subject: Devastated :'( (Long one sorry)
Dont know how much more i can take but just as i was starting to pick myself back up from having depression. BAM its hit me again all thanks to my recent ex Oh Sad (not babys dad)

I mentioned on here a little while back that i wasnt sure whether i loved him or not cause when we last broke up i thought i had fallen out of love with him but obviously not Sad well we have split up again last week and i am absolutely devastated and have really realised how much i love the lad and how much he has done for me i just feel ive shoved him away :'(.

we were in durham the other day and we went to BHS cafe for a drink and we were just sat talking about work and stuff.. anyway i turned round and told him oh Kieren(mias dad) scrubs up well for work now with a shirt and tie etc he works at mcdonalds and has been promoted to customer care manager i didnt expect to take it so serious Rolling Eyes . well he stood up and said we best go now and maybe i should go back to him. i told him i didnt want to go back to kieren as i didnt love him. anyway he pretty much stormed off walking to his grans house so i followed him basically chasing after him he told me to [*CENSORED*] off and he didnt want me, he also told me i come with too much baggage and that my daughter was baggage and she will be awkward to take to his house at christmas because all of his family will see her and it will just be embarassing as mia is not his daughter. i got to my bus stop and punched him in the chest and told him my daughter was no baggage and he said IT IS :O and went off!


Problem being a few days later he said he was sorry etc etc then we go into an argument and he said i dont want you Emma, so me burst into tears and then he said in the end i stole his fiance (meaning he stole me from kieren) and [*@!#%*] me so he had won and now to [*CENSORED*] off as he has already met someone else :O.

im absolutely devastated and cant stop texting him and calling him im feeling so sorry for myself and down and depressed again and he is probably just laughing at me which isnt fair Sad i dont have a clue what to do as i still love him depsite everything he has said.

What is getting me the most is does he really have a new girlfriend and using me or is he just saying it to upset me Sad

Sorry for the really long post i just need to get it all of my chest as i dont know what to think or what to do anymore ( its also so hard as he only works and lives round the corner fro my house Sad. Just to note he is 24 and i am only 19 so im only young and its really pulling on my heartstrings Sad

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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2012 12:55 pm 
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I know its hard but it defo sounds like you are better off without him x
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2012 2:37 pm 
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Aww look as hard as it is forget about him now. He is 24 and acting like a 14 year old.
I think what's best is to concentrate on bringing up your daughter who will love you unconditionally. Get yourself in a happy place whether that's with the help of a doctor also. Perhaps do a little part time course to get you out there socialising with people again as this is good for your self esteem. Once you are in a good place a nice man will be at your door who will like you and your daughter.

The end of a relationship is never easy but you have to be brave and get on with living. Single life is much more fun anyway!!Smile)
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2012 7:40 pm 
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Banoffees advice is really good.

Please delete this guys number, and walk away. I have been through some pretty destructive relationships in the past and although it may seem like you cant go on now, in time it will be like a switch has been flicked and you will see it for what it was.

Please dont feel like its your fault, its not.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2012 9:47 pm 
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Aww look as hard as it is forget about him now. He is 24 and acting like a 14 year old.
I think what's best is to concentrate on bringing up your daughter who will love you unconditionally. Get yourself in a happy place whether that's with the help of a doctor also. Perhaps do a little part time course to get you out there socialising with people again as this is good for your self esteem. Once you are in a good place a nice man will be at your door who will like you and your daughter.

The end of a relationship is never easy but you have to be brave and get on with living. Single life is much more fun anyway!!Smile)


Thanks banoffee i suppose you are right he is acting so much younger than what he is to be honest i just wish he would stop it i understand he has a hell of a lot of stress and barely any patience and unloading all my problems on top of him as well didnt help but i never had anyone else to talk too Sad

i cant really afford to do a part time course or to put my daughter in nursery any more days than what she already goes as its very expensive Sad

Just feel like constantly crying , dont know what to do with myself i feel actually useless. i seen him whilst i was sat in a cafe in my town today with my friend i just felt like going out and talking to him but i obviously cant do that. im absolutely gutted Sad xx
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2012 7:58 am 
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Believe me you will in years to come look back on certain relationships and wonder why you got so upset. Eventually it will get easier without him and broken hearts take time to heal. If he is so stessed out its not a good environment for you are your daughter. You sound so much more mature at 19 then I did. Give yourself some credit and don't let this guy drag you down. Also whenever you see him just think its his loss !

Try to enjoy your Christmas and let 2013 bring you lots of happiness !
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