Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 6:20 pm
Post subject: Whats everyone's thoughts on co-sleeping?
I am split, can decide if it is best for my son to bring him in to our bed, which is where he settles and clearly wants to be or if I should try and teach him to have the confidence to sleep alone. Am I just taking the easy way out by bring him straight in or is wanting to sleep next to your mum only natural and something he will grow out of?
Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 6:40 pm
I think when they are littl its fine, I co slept every night with Ava until she was 6 months old (due to breast feeding)
Now I will only let her in my bed if she is ill as I know she likes the comfort.
She did go through a stage of wanting to sleep in our bed or have snuggles before bed and I found this lead to broken sleep for her, since I have started being firm and putting her straight to bed with just a kiss goodnight she sleeps through again.
Its really what works best for you and what youre happy with xx
Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 6:54 pm
I let Harry get in with us. I have gone past the stage of caring what people think anymore.
We were in a 1 bedroom place for about 6 weeks and he slept with us the whole time then. At the end of the day its only you, your OH and your baby that it matters to hun. You go with what you feel is right.
Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 7:21 pm
I can't sleep properly if I have the kids in my bed. I know there are people who do it and their child just progresses into their own bed. But then there is the other extreme, like my sister, who has her 4 year old always in her bed. She lies with him in his bed until he's asleep and then he will be up within a few hours and climbing into her bed.
If you feel comfortable doing then its nobody's business. Do what suits you.
Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 7:27 pm
I personally couldn't but I don't even like sharing my bed with my DH. I sleep
so much better on my own. I don't have an issue with co-sharing but I would be worried about them when they get older and still not able to sleep on their own. If you and your partner are comfortable with it then do it as all families do things with regards to bedtime that work for them.
Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 7:49 pm
Go with what suits you best Research shows that it is not a bad thing to co-sleep. In fact in countries where it is the norm, like China, there is no name for SIDS as it doesn't exist!
Like others have said, I need my space in my bed, but if it suits you, go for it! I should think its a lovely feeling snuggling up all night!!
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Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 8:40 pm
I personally would not sleep a wink, I'd be scared of rolling on them, but I am paranoid about everything lol.
So I've seen both extreme's, where parents don't get a moments sleep and where children just naturally grow out of it quickly. I have tried bringing Alex into our bed when he's woken up at like 4am and think its time to get up in the hope he'd just rest but alas he sees our bed as a playground so it doesn't work for us anyway lol
Posted: Wed Jan 09, 2013 8:45 pm
I personally never have mainly because when i was bf i fell asleep with him there and freaked myself out so much thinking I could've hurt him i never did it again. I tried to bring my boy in with me once when he was ill he asked to go back to his own bed! I'm selfish too and like to have the kids in their own rooms by 7 so evening and night is my time. It wasn't easy sleep training them but I felt I did it for their (and my) own good.
My friend still has to cuddle her boy to sleep and he's 4 and if she gets up he wakes up within half hour and wants her back in bed so she doesn't get some chill out time.
Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 12:03 am
My lg is 13 months old now and for first year she slept wit us for at least part off the night I just went with how I felt each day and took it step by step..some days she would settle fine in her cot so I would leave er there .. I ne'er sleep when she isn't in bed with me tho and just lie awake hoping she wakes up lol! Other nights she just wouldn't settle so I had a well deserved early night with her I always make sure she knows her bees is her bed tho
.. But when in with us she doesn't Even stir. I'm lucky that we have a big bed and patter quite liked bed sharing aswell .. Meant he got a full nights sleep lol!
I absolutly love sharing my sleep with my baby more than anything else we do I love hearing her right there knowing she is safe and warm and not too cold
Since Xmas tho we have gotten a lot more structure bath bottle bed! Her own bed in her iwn room
And she stays there all night now no matter if she wakes up the night I will go and lie in her floor till she nods back off I think she is old enough now to understand that I will
Come to her the second she cries and it's ok to be alone..I honestly..just in my
Oppinion don't think little babas can process that information and just need lots
Off cuddles and a relaxed well slept mummy ) so
If you feel safe and you sleep well when you an baba together then go for it but def reccomend usin your bed as second optiOn just so your lo won't think it's a new acary thing when ya do introduce the cot x
Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 10:32 am
Do whatever is best for you and enables you to get some rest. It's fine people saying don't co sleep as it's dangerous but you need some sleep too, don't you? I never let any of my kids in my bed as my OH smoked (outside but still all the warning etc) and I just can't sleep with a child in the bed and also I'm on medication which makes me drowsy.
Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 10:50 am
Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 10:59 am
It's not something we ever did as the boys never wanted to but I'm not against the idea. If this baby needs to be close then I would co sleep, the only time the boys are ever in my bed is when they are poorly and even then they choose to go back to bed rather than stay all night xx