Posted: Tue Apr 23, 2013 4:26 pm
Post subject: Should I, shouldn't I?
That phrase has been going around and around my head for weeks now and I've been lurking around on AB for days now...
I'm 38 this year and DH will be 39. Last pregnancy was full placenta previa (but thank goodness no complications).
Now I can't decide whether to have another child (we really want one) because, are we too old? Am I risking the babies health - we are too old. Will I get placenta previa again (had it with both, but first moved up) and this time with complications? Can I handle 3 kids? Find 2 busy enough! We have NO family over here, so no support. Plus the money..........
Argh.... Stupid I know...
Posted: Tue Apr 23, 2013 8:34 pm
It all depends on you and your family and your situation... If you can afford another child, feel you have the support and strong relationship to cope with it and of course its what you both want, I don't see why you shouldnt. I don't think at 38/39 you are too old as long as you don't see it as a problem and you are healthy enough to cope with the demands of parenthood.
I don't know much about placenta pravia so I can't comment on that, but its worth looking into, if this is the only thing holding you back why don't you speak to your GP about it and get some advice?
We are stopping at 2, I always thought I would like to have 3 children, but financially, emotionally and logically it wouldn't work for us, we cant afford 3 sets of childcare during the school hols for instance and would have to change our car to be able to fit in 3 car seats etc etc xxx
Posted: Wed Apr 24, 2013 5:16 pm
I had PP in my fifth pregnancy I only had the one risk factor for it then and that was having had four previous pregnancies , I also had complete PP and had my first section , next time round I was worried I would have it again as supposedly having had a section is an added risk factor, but I didn't and didn't have it with number 7 either
I wouldn't worry about the previous low lying placenta as that's very very common its not considered proper PP until the last trimester really as so many women have a placenta that's lowish at 20 weeks partly because your wombs still fairly small at that point so the odds are that at least part of the placenta will be near the cervix then and it almost always moves enough for a vaginal delivery .
As far as age goes I started TTC again at 40 so I don't think you're too old at all and as for one more child honestly I think the second is the hardest to adjust to and then any after that don't make much of a difference as you already have a routine and the baby tends to fit in with that rather than the other way round , good luck if you go for it x