Posted: Fri May 10, 2013 7:02 pm
Post subject: Failing marriage & can't stop thinking off another man!
Help me I feel like hell! I posted few weeks ago about my crapy marriage..since then things have sort off improved .. Well we fight less but I think we have both just given up a bit and decided to make the most off a bad situation..which I was happy with until I started my new job..
Now I know I will never ever cheat on my husband! I just want to sound off really..
There is a guy at work and he literally sends shivers down my spine! Doesn't help that he is a complete space invader so he always stands so close too me when we are talking ..he has the most amazing body ever! I work in a gym so get too see it far too much! I literally can't get this guy Prut off my head! Iv eer started exercise classes do I can spend more time with him .. Which on the plus side I lost half a stone
I know this is prov just a crush and my husband has had little crushes in the past we are obly human at the end off the day..
But it's different know it's me I feel awful ..
Posted: Fri May 10, 2013 11:18 pm
Well if you are basing your attraction of off physical attraction, it's no puzzle as to why your marriage is failing. I mean all you really care about is this guy's body, and having little fantasies in your head about him. I know it sounds a little bit harsh, but I am just speaking my mind.
Posted: Sat May 11, 2013 9:52 am
[quote="juliebarns"]Well if you are basing your attraction of off physical attraction, it's no puzzle as to why your marriage is failing. I mean all you really care about is this guy's body, and having little fantasies in your head about him. I know it sounds a little bit harsh, but I am just speaking my mind.
If you read the post properly you would know that the poster has mentioned previously posting about marriage problems, this guy isnt the cause of them. I think it merely highlights that there is still problems in your marriage and its clear youre still not happy. Relationships and marriage shouldnt be about 'making the best of a bad situation'. I think its really sad that thats the way you feel, do you really want to spend the rest of your life living like that seriously??
Ttc since December 2007!
Posted: Sat May 11, 2013 6:14 pm
Honestly if you are having such strong desires for another man I would really consider whether long term you marriage will work. Think long and hard about any decision but I always think if you've given things a go for at least a year and still not happy then call it a day. I'm a bit old fashioned as I believe new relationships shouldn't start until the divorce is settled (if you chose that route).
Don't stay with someone for a child's sake as from experience children will be happier if both parents are happy.
I don't envy the position you are in and hope you get some resolution either way that's good for you.
Posted: Sat May 11, 2013 9:15 pm
I don't think you are being too harsh! Trust me i am my biggest critic at the moment.
I mean my fella tried for a bit .. Makes me think that 'settling' might not be too bad. But it last a month at most then he is back to lying in bed all day.. Snapping at me when I ask him a simple question..I do everything arpun the house and baby wise.. But he is so loyal! I always know where he is..I never have any worried that real bad relationships have but mainly down to the fact that the poor bugger is so boring! Only hobby he has is his Xbox .. Absolutly no passion or force for life
And I am the complete opposite..I'm loud in ya face and quite frankly a bit annoying lol! Which he likes to point out too me.
Our sex life is non existent..but we're only early 20s and both in good shape so I see no reason for this really?
I know I am only attracted to the excitement off this other guy.. Hes so interesting funny and sexy.. I'm quite open minded with the whole 'crush' thing as said we are only human but I do thjnk this is a little more than just wanting too look.
Don't worry I like to think I'd never cheat..I need leave the house except for work and play time with little one do unless we're gonna do it in a store cupboard (which I highly doubt ) I'm safe from that!
I have to give this marriage everything iv got! I owe that too my little one and I know 'making the most out off a bad situation' isn't ideal..but I'm the kinda gal that finds enjoyment in almost anything so my
Life makes up for the [*@!#%*] relationship.
He provides for us and he is there for us .. That's wuote a lot compared to what other people have .. Isnt it?