Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 1:52 pm
Post subject: Anyone else's OH? .........
........ Be really really lovely but other times bloody annoy you??
I love my OH so much and he is really sweet, but sometimes he can be manipulating and patronising and it damn annoys me!!! Especially infront of people!!
Makes me so cross because I know how nice he CAN be, and he also doesn't listen to me either. Whatever I say just goes over his head and he doesn't take it on board.
He doesn't listen to me infront of our son, 6yo, so now my son has started just ignoring me and laughing at me like OH does. (OH is very sarcastic, doesn't take anything seriously, make s a joke out of everything)
I don't want to break up with him but I really hate how he is sometimes, I love him to pieces but he wont change, its just the way he is.
Not entirely sure what to do! Any advice please? xx
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 2:24 pm
hun im in the same boat (i have a 21 month old and a 13year old ) and my OH half is the same he seams more nasty with it tho (if my 13 year old annoys him he take's it out on me all day and has been for the last few weeks and saying it is my fault tht he does it ) same for the toddler none of the kids listen to i get laughted at or get attitude from them (i am currently 28 weeks pregnant with my 3rd his 2nd) and feel as tho i could be better off with out him at times ( he used to be soo nice and sweet) but what can any of us do
i love my OH to bits but feel so alone wish i could give you advice hun but im in the same boat (unfortunately think my paddles floated away ) along time ago i know i cant change my OH but wish he was more loving and respectable to me instead of showing me nothing in return he majority of the time ignore's me and then raises his voice to me when i repeat "saying here we go again"
hopefully you find ur answer hun and i feel for you ((hugs))
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 3:01 pm
Oh hun, its hard isn't it!
My OH is never nasty with it, I just feel like theres no respect there and like im just a joke, but I suppose it could be worse!
Its so embarrassing though in front of people, esp family, when he is patronising towards me or doesn't pay attention to what I say! It makes me feel bad and worry about what my family will think of him. I don't want them thinking Im badly treated all the time and unhappy. And I certainly don't want my son growing up to be disrespectful as he might try and copy daddies sarcasm and get in trouble for it! Children don't understand sarcasm do they!!
Congratulations on your pregnancy btw!! I think Id quite like another one day, ive got a 6yo(boy) and a 20month old(girl)
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 3:14 pm
yh it could be a lot worse hun (both of mine are girls and im carrying a boy =D ) i think that men dnt grow up and want to babied like there children
it is hard when you feel like we do but our children make it better even when they act like there father
i have to say i did say to my OH do u want me to put the nappy on you instead of the toddler hehe he kinda didnt like that much but hay gonna act like a baby i will treat like a baby lol
tbh i think i rather like the devil i know than the devil i dnt but i will sure as hell not let my kids turn out like daddy as there not gonna treat anyone as if there invisible im lucky in a way as i live oversea's away from my family and my mum died in jan (miss her loads tho ) i know deep down he love's me bt sick of getting treated like a nothing (think that is the reason i have started to step up and say io im human you know treat me better ) but we all know it will go in one ear and out the other lol (just glad we have here and other ladies that go through the same
thank you for the grats (little one was a surprise lol) and my last =D
Posted: Mon Sep 30, 2013 2:57 pm
I could have written the same original post just the other way around he's lovely in public but can be awful to be around at home.. We did split last year but not for long when it's good between us it's great but it can be so difficult too.. We are complete opposites too
Posted: Mon Oct 07, 2013 8:01 pm
most men can be but sometimes they just get one ur wick i love my hubby to bits but think he is a pain when he dont get his own way
most of the time i have to admit i might be starting on him (as i have server depression) and think he is acting out to get me to see it which in turns annoys me even more lol poor man must think the devil has arrived he is a brilliant dad tho just needs to grow up most of the time