Posted: Mon Jan 20, 2014 11:30 am
Post subject: Out of ideas
I'm not really sure where to start. I have a 5 year old boy and I'm really worried about him. He has had some issues at school and we are now working with them to get it turned around. He seems to get really worked up and then can't manage his behavior. He tells us that he doesn't want to behave that way and to be honest I'm not sure if he understands why he does some of the things he does. He tends to be good at home, I'm not claiming he's an angel but he has been responding well to the reward things we have put in place. Then this weekend my husband was away and we went to see my parents, my lovely gorgeous boy went and changed personalities. He wouldn't listen to me or anyone else. When I talk to him about it he says he wants to chose good behavior and he doesn't know why he does the other things. I know I don't always do the right thing or respond in the right way, and I will try harder. I'm sure we can all relate to not being perfect! I don't know what we're doing wrong, honestly we're not terrible parents we both try so hard and put so much effort into everything. I'm just so worried about him. He is such a fantastic little boy and I'm scared because others don't get a chance to see that. I don't want him to known as the 'bad' boy at school. He doesn't have any close friends at school, he has never been invited to play or to a party or anything like that. I just want him to be happy and for others to like him for him. What else can we do? Please any help or advice would be great. I find myself in tears every day, I would hate for him to an unhappy child and not have friends. My husband and I have even talked about moving as we're not sure if it's got something to do with the area. The school he goes to is brilliant and they have been really supportive, I'm just worried about the schools around us after this one.
Posted: Fri Jul 04, 2014 3:26 pm
Thanks for your reply. To be honest I had stopped checking after a couple of months. Things are improving, its a long road though! On the whole we have more good days than anything else, which I think is the aim of the game. With any child, not every day can be perfect. He now has friends at school which he also sees outside of school. Which I personally feel very positive about. We have got support from the school and I think they are doing everything they reasonably can. Like with any aspect of parenting there are times when you just feel so alone and like the only one going through it!