Posted: Sun Feb 02, 2014 9:32 pm
Post subject: Am I over-reacting or is he dyslexic?
So... I have a 6.5 year old boy. He didn't speak until he was three as had severe glue ear in both ears so couldn't hear a thing! I knew something was wrong from when he was 18 months but it took until just before his third birthday to get to the bottom of it, after seeing speech therapists, GP's, Neurologists, ENT's etc!! It was a long road but I was his advocate and I just knew he would of spoken if he could.
He has always been a bright, confident and out-going boy. He can and always has made friends anywhere, despite not talking. So, he is now in year 2 and he is struggling at school. He is behind in his reading and writing and always has been. His teacher has always put it down to his late start with talking as he failed the phonics test they have in year 1. I accepted this theory all through reception and some of year 1 but for the last 6 months I've thought he may be dyslexic. He shows signs of being dyslexic I.e. He reverses letters and words, he sounds out most words and doesn't recognise a word after repeatedly sounding it out, his reading is very disjointed and slow, his writing is hard to understand and has a lot of crossings out and mis-spelt words in it, he loses track of where he is when reading and loses whole lines of text, etc etc!
The point of my post is do you think that I am over-reacting and his slowness to catch up is because of his past difficulties or is their something else going on? I have always said that after going through all that with him when I knew something was wrong I will always go with my gut instinct which is telling me there is more to it but I am questioning myself big time!!
His teacher this year agrees that he is struggling but thinks 'it will come' etc etc. I have looked into getting him tested privately so we would pay for it, I think that I have nothing to lose by doing that and if he isn't dyslexic and is just taking longer to catch up then almost great to know, I think I'll feel at ease then. I've got a parent teacher evening coming up so I'm going to write all my concerns down and then I can get her view on it too. I haven't mentioned that I think he may be dyslexic as I didn't want to put that thought in her head if she didn't think it if you see what I mean. However, I now think I'm being too cautious and I need to address it as he's only going to fall more behind.
What do you think? Should I get him tested? Am I reacting too quickly when I should just wait it out for a year or two?
Thanks! Kate xx
Posted: Sun Feb 02, 2014 10:24 pm
If you are concerned then I don't see a problem in approaching the teacher. If he is in year 2 then the school should have sorted something out before now. His reception teacher and year 1 teacher should have picked up on it and he should have been tested.
I don't know why you would have to pay to get him tested yourself. A health visitor should organise it for you.
Raise your concerns before the parents evening. Then at that you can discuss ways forward.
My nephew's mum always said he was learning as he should. They moved to a new area and his new school has him on their special need register.
Posted: Mon Feb 03, 2014 10:23 am
If you are concerned get him assessed. At least then if he is he will be able to get the help he needs early on and therefore he should come in in leaps and bounds. I don't think glue ear affects ability of reading (only out loud when using speech) or writing. My daughter was behind her class until year 5 and then was ahead of most. So children do learn at different rates. One thing for sure is not all teachers are experts or can even recognise when a child is dyslexic as I know of 3 people who have gone through school without finding out till late. My friends daughter was discovered at 10 years, a neighbours son at secondary school and my brother in law at 18 years!!
As shellm said speak to his teacher as they should be able to get him assessed properly at school with an external person or speak to your health visitor. You sound like a mum who really knows when something isn't quite right and I always say mums know best!!!
Posted: Mon Feb 03, 2014 12:16 pm
Yes, I will speak to his teacher. I just thought that if there was a problem then they would have picked up on it but I suppose there are 30 children in the class and he's by no means the worst academically in his class so I think he probably looks middle of the road so they just say its because he was late with his speech and label him that way.
I have arranged to go into my local dyslexia action centre and speak to them to see what they suggest. Usually in school they will not assess a child until they are at least 7 so I'd have do to wait until he's in year 3 anyway I imagine.
I don't want him to struggle, like any parent so it can't do any harm to see if he is and if he isn't then we'll have to keep up the extra practice at home and hope he will catch up eventually.
Thanks girls, you have made my mind up and things seem clearer. I need to push for him as no-one else will! Thanks for your help.
Posted: Tue Feb 04, 2014 7:45 pm
Just wanted to add that I'm sure with you on the case he will get all the support and help he needs! If it does turn out that he is dyslexic it doesn't have to limit him in, my husband is dyslexic and has a masters degree in Physics and a great job now!!
Posted: Wed Feb 12, 2014 9:25 pm
Hey I have some experience in dyslexia as I have was previously a learning support teacher. Dyslexia can affect more than just literacy so think about his memory, can he remember number facts/times tables? Can he follow a few instructions given at the same time? Can he organise himself when he has to get ready for school? These are all common indicators of dyslexia too.
Teachers should always be there to help and I am sure his will be happy to talk with you about your concerns, after all, you know him best! Good luck!