Still trying to potty train a 10 year old ?

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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 11:06 am 
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I have a 10 year old son still in nappies. He has no illness and i've had him checked out by a doctor but he was just impossible to train when he was little. His older brother was difficult to train too but after a while he did. He hasn't even been able to use the toilet once and its just like having a baby. He hates being in nappies all the time and doesn't have many friends because of it and i'm not happy about checking and changing nappies all the time (he hates being changed and always throws tantrums about it), i'm currently using pampers baby dry on him. they still fit really well but lately he's been getting really sad and embarrassed about the whole thing.

If anyone has any advice i would be more than grateful. I don't want to have a baby forever!.


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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 11:14 am 
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You really need to see a dr hun. He will most likely need to be refered for tests to make sure there isnt bladder problems or possibly couselling.

Why doesnt he use the toilet does he know when he needs the toilet or does he wet himself?
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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 11:18 am 
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I've had him checked out by 3 different doctors and they don't seem to think anythings wrong. He never makes it to the toilet on time and just ends up using his nappy but i'm getting sick of it and the school have complained many times too.

I've also had to get him checked out by a doctor last week because he's been feeling really depressed about the whole situation.
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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 11:46 am 
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hmmm it could be that hes leaving it too late. It sounds like his bladder needs to be trained to hold onto his wee better. He defo needs to be referred onto a proper specialist. Sad

The only other way is over the easter break just go for it, ban nappies, go back to basics. Make him go toilet every thirty mins, then gradually increase the time. Keep drinks to set meal time etc.
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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 11:51 am 
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Alright. That sounds good. What about pull ups instead of nappies and nappies at night time? I don't really want him having accidents all over the place. He's wet on me while I've been changing him before and thats not nice.

It would be great not having to change nappies anymore. I could finally have a proper 10 year old. I must spend a fortune on nappies and wipes.
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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 12:24 pm 
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I would be tempted to take him to the shops to buysome pairs of pants/boxers of his choice and use those during the day. If it was me id use pull-ups at night and once you have dry days work on the night.

It must be tough, im surprised you can nappies at all for his size.
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Posted: Mon Mar 08, 2010 1:12 pm 
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Thanks for your help. I'll see how it goes.

and yeah, we currently use the biggest pampers baby dry. I'm surprised they still fit him too, at the moment they just come up to his belly button so i think they will still fit for a while.

Just wondering, how long do you think it will take him to have a few dry days? I'm really sick of changing nappies all the time not to mention all the nappy rashes and people think my son is "stupid" and that i'm a bad parent.
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Posted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 3:41 pm 
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Just wondering do you have any tips in how to get rid of nappy rash quicker? my son has had it for almost a week now and i can't send him to school like that. It's usually gone after a few days...
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Posted: Fri Apr 09, 2010 9:26 pm 
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Try sudocrem for the nappy rash.
I agree with Floop. Stay in the house for at least two weeks and just blast the training. It sounds like he has a severe weak bladder but this can usually be corrected with exercises to strengthen the muscles. Try and encourage him to walk up and down the stairs to strengthen his muscles and clenching. Let him walk around the house with his new undies on, possibly with a colour your can wasily identify is getting wet e.g grey.
You need to do this now before it is too late. And definately go to the doctor and demand to be referred to the hospital.
Good luck
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 12:07 pm 
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I am completely shocked that you haven't had help with this Shocked

I would see a doctor again and demand to at least have a bladder scan
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 7:03 pm 
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I would defo go and demand some tests be done x
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Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2010 4:42 pm 
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i cant imagine any doctor in the world would think it normal or nothing wrong for a 10 year old to be still in nappies and not want to pursue it further. You definitely need to pursue this further, with as many doctors as it takes
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Posted: Sat Dec 18, 2010 1:01 am 
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Its been ages since this post was started and I was just wondering how you and your son are getting on???
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Hope things have improved x
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Posted: Sun Jul 10, 2011 11:22 pm 
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that must be awful for you and him not to mention embarrassing. Can I just say though at 10 unless he has a physical disability or learning difficulties such as autism he ought to be toielt trained by now, so I would say his problem is pyschological and he needs specialist attention and help to overcome this which now become an issue and hurdle for you both. Also if you keep him in nappies it will hold him back and potentially make him reluctant to use a toilet and a bit lazy because he knows that he doesnt ahve to go, it may sound harsh but the nappies during the day have got to go because otherwise when he gets to secondary school at the age of 11 he will be bullied this will led to further problems and even regression so for his sake and your sake - seek specialist help and continue training as if he were a younge r child he will get there eventually. I know night time dryness takes longer to achieve. I was toilet trained during the day by the time I was 2 but then my Mother used cloth nappies on me nowadays children generally train later because of disposable nappies, but even though I have a weak bladder, poor muscle tone and poor co-ordination accidents were rare in the daytime. I wonder does your son have physical weakness generally, poor motor skills and poor mucle tone and co-ordination difficulties?, if so he could be dyspraxic, it might be worth getting him tested, this could explain still being in nappies at the age of 10, as his muscle tone is weak meaning a full bladder or bowel is more difficult to manage for these children, so physiothearpy as well as toilet training could help. Good luck, hope you get the results you want
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Posted: Mon Jul 11, 2011 9:29 am 
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Hi was just reading through again and you said he hates being changed he is likely protesting about feeling like a baby but either physically or pyschologically unable to toilet as he is so used to being changed. Switch to underwear and give him some wipes etc, and let him learn to change himself as this will give more independence. As he gets more independence praise and encourage him and eventually as he will hate to be wet or dirty he should learn to use the toilet, after all at 10 he likely knows what it is for and how to use it, he just needs to learn when to use the toilet.
But like I said in my earlier post do get him assessed for special needs as if he has them he will need physiotherapy to strengthen muscles including bowel and bladder muscles, and occupational therapy to learn independent skills, as well as a specialist approach to toilet training, good luck.
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