Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2008 6:35 pm
Post subject: 8 year gap!
Hi. I have just had and Ectopic pregnancy after a nearly 8 year gap. Not that the Ep has any significance to the gap,,but the reaction people had to the fact that we would like another child after 8 years is surprising. Most people were happy till my loss and have since given positive thoughts for a future baby. But there have been comments about the gap and my age. I am only 34!!! |Good luck with getting a BFP. Pup X
Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2008 7:16 pm
Hi there I have a 13 year gap and am currently 12 weeks pregnant and I am 40!!! Have had quite a few comments, but had no problems getting pregnant, did lose 2 very early on I would say more down to my age but its very hard to get definite answers. Good luck with future pregnancy(s).
Take care, Flossie xx
Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2008 8:28 pm
Hey Helz123 - Just forgot to mention the only thing I did do was keep a good check on my cycle and basically kept an eye on the calendar although did not want to do the 'baby dance' just to get pregnant!! Just felt if it happened it happened, GP told me it could take me some time as one of my ovaries looked like it wasnt doing much (from scan)....am thanking my lucky stars everything still seems to be in good working order
Let us know how you get on - will look out for your posts, Flossie xx
Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:04 pm
Hi Helz - I have 1 daughter aged 15 and a son aged 12. Tried not to dwell too much on m/c to be honest I half expected it, that probably sounds awful but it was the best way for me to deal with it. I found it very hard to tell my children I was pregnant my son looked at me as if to say uuuggghhh mum I know what you have been doing!!!
Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:14 pm
So did you all of a sudden hear the bodyclock ticking??? Up until a couple of months ago I never really considered having any more but all of a sudden I wanted one! Spoke to my husband who is so happy that I have said this! Just hope we haven't missed the boat!!! Hope I can still do it!
Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:38 pm
Yes kind of just thought this could be my last chance and I couldnt imagine NOT doing it, I certainly weighed up the pros and cons but it just feels right have now become a complete baby bore!!! I think the need certainly has buit up in me since I lost the last 2, am sure you will be ok having a baby over 35 apparently is becoming more popular and I have a friend who had her 1st at 41 and 2nd at 43, my grandma also had twins at 46 in 1966 which was practically unheard of then. I think we are setting a trend.
Keep me posted, any questions feel free to ask. Thought I might mention that I am having a Nuchal Translucency Scan on Wednesday I live in Lincolnshire and it is not offered on the NHS here so am having it done privately, my consultant recommended it as he does for all mums to be over 35, I am combining blood tests with this to get the most accurate result possible, everything is so different from 1996!!
Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 8:52 pm
I'm new to the site, hope you don't mind me butting in ?
An OLDER Mum - 38, my kids are 16, 14 and 11 and believe it or not I've just gone through a sterilisation reversal.
My ex-hubby and I split 8 years ago then 2.5 years ago I met my soul mate and have been fighting the feelings since.
Didn't take long before we gave in !!! I was very lucky and had a lovely consultant ( had to go private as I have kids, even though my OH doesn't ) and I had my reversal on 20th February this year. So we are just starting TTC .
I am hoping that as I was very fertile when I was younger and I relatively active and healthy it will go in my favour .
Keep those positive thoughts and I'm sure It won't be too long before you get your BFP's
x x x