Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 3:15 pm
Post subject: missed miscarriage at 12 weeks
i found out at my 12 week scan my baby had stopped growing and died, i had what was left inside me removed and i am devestated, i want to try and conceive again but feel selfish and guilty. i dont want the same thing to happen again and dont know when its safe to start trying.
Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 3:35 pm
The midwife told me today to at least wait for your next period to come which is usually around 6 weeks later, and to give ourselves time to grieve and emotionally come to terms with losing our baby, I have read that some people try straight away and its been ok for them, but for me im going to take my time.
Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 3:06 pm
The same thing happened to me. I went to my 12 week scan in January and having had no symptoms, was devestated to hear that the baby had died and i'd had a missed miscarriage. I think it's even harder when you think everything is fine. My partner and I decided we wanted to try again asap because we want a baby so much that being pregnant again would help us through. I was advised to wait until I had another period so it would be easier to date so that's what we've done- to be honest, i think try as soon as you're ready - when it happens it happens. Just be aware that a false positive can sometimes occur after a miscarriage. Im literally at the time I can take a test, but we're leaving it for a while! Really want to know! Good luck anyway, I hope you have success ASAP. It's good to know that there are people in the same situation. xxx
Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 5:18 pm
im going to wait untill after my next period to ttc again, i hope im succesfull soon as i feel that i cant be myself or be happy again untill i fall pregnant, i cant face college or work now so im going to find a difforent job now and go back tpo college another time
Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 8:25 am
Yeah that's how I feel. I'm trying to stay happy and positive but it's all that I seem to think about at the mo. I always think about the baby I lost though, it will never take away that pain but I just want to be pregnant again. I am preparing myself for it to take a while though - it seems to be the way of the world - when you want it to happen, it takes ages! Anyway, i'm keeping my fingers crossed for us both. Hopefully if it works we'll be going through everything at the same time! Try and stay happy because you don't want to put your body under unecessary stress. You'll be okay. xxx
Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:39 pm
im going to nd make my body stronger this time with light exorsize through the week and eating healthily. last time i conceived i wasnt trying for a baby so i didnt know for a while and i was still drinking alcohol. next time i wont be drinking, eating nuts, shellfish, egg or mayo because i did last time, i didnt know you shouldnt eat them. i hope we all get what we want, a healthy little baby, yes its probably going to take a while but it might not but next time its going to be right.
Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 5:50 pm
Hi im glad to hear you soundin so positive Im sure youll be a lovley mummy and get your healthy lilttle baby soon. TTC is so hard-what you can and cant eat etc but worth it in the end, most important advice i can give is to carry on with folic acid.
Best of luck hun take care xxx