Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 1:15 am
Post subject: ttc but with no luck... needing someone 2 talk to
Hello, I am new to the site. I know that there are other women that are having the same kind of problem that I am having. After two years of trying, we still don't have a baby. I have been in and out of the hospital all of the month of April. Stomach pains and the flu. But this last time around, my normal doc told me that from the looks of the ct scan and the ultrasound that I have PCOS. She told me that I have a number of cyst on my ovaries and that she didn't think that I would be able to get pg. So she referred me to a gyno. I went to see him today and he told me that it was bull because i don't have PCOS. That someone with that wouldn't have her period everyone month like I do. Even though it is irregular. He also told me that all women have some kind of cyst on their ovaries. He said givin that one of my ovaries is smaller than normal that shouldn't be a problem. I am so tired of doctors. I dont' think that many of them really know what they are doing? Does anyone else feel like this?
Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 6:29 am
I am so sorry to hear your story, it must be hard. I have a different history - but effectively two years of trying now for our second child (and had stillbirth and miscarriage) but still no baby we can hold in our arms and enjoy and watch grow up. I am so frustrated too, and I guess although I know I can get pregnant, which is a good thing, I don't seem to be able to carry the baby, which is the hard thing. Have been trying again since september, and no luck again yet.
Are they going to do any further tests? Two years is such a long time to be trying - so difficult every month when af arrives. It does sound like someone doesnt know what they are talking about, and I think further investigation is required to get to the bottom of it. Don't get palmed off by the gynae, if you have been trying for two years, then there is stuff they can do to check you and your partner out. Wish you every luck in the world - keep on at them, and make sure you get the investigations neeeded to see what is happening
Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 3:56 pm
I have a similar story, I was diagnosed by my doctor 4 years ago with PCOS, my dad is disabled with Myotonic Muscular Dystrophy and I was told I would never ever get pregnant!!
Last year my partner and I managed to get pregnant, however I miscarried at 4 1/2 months and had to give birth to are daughter (who was whole) we named her Caitlynne.
When I went to the Gyno he basically told me I hadnt got to 3 m/c and was only 28 years old so there was nothing to worry about.....I was so p*****d off and an emotional wreck.
My husband are trying again, however I did find out that some times ladies who do not have enough of a hormone in their bodies will not conceive or if they do they will m/c at 12-20 weeks, it might be bull... but it is something to look into, it was my doctor that told me this and he is going to organise some bld tests for me too find out.
But never give up and good luck
Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 4:13 pm
sorry to hear u have been thru so much, i have only been trying for near 11 months so i dont fully understand what u r goin thru but yeah i agree half docs r full of [*CENSORED*] and dont know what they r talking about
r the hosp going to do any tests on you? if not i wud go back to my own doc and ask for a second opinion tell them ur not happy and u feel like u r jst being pushed aside and u r confused bcos everyone is telling u a different thing
i hope u get things sorted soon hun
best wishes xx
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 2:43 am
Post subject: thank you
This was my second opinion. it just sucks. i really want to have baby. i just feel like that we are missing something in our marriage. my husband says the same thing. i see every 1 around me having kids. errrrr. i have read so much on this subject. i just wonder if i am trying too hard? is That possible?
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 9:40 am
I am really sorry you are seeing the horrible side of TTC. I do believe that it is possible to 'over try'. I know it is incredibly hard but relaxing and taking your focus of TTC really is the best thing you can do. I have heard, seen and know so many people that have spent years ttc and when they eventually stopped and either stopped ttc or tried to adopt, it suddenly happened for them....the pressure was off and the body did what it can do best. So much easier said than done i know but its worth trying. i find reiki or reflexology really helps me. it focuses and rebalances the body.
I have told this story so many times, but it just gives me so much hope and inspiration.....my sister was ttc for over 4 years. they had all the tests under the sun (both of them were perfectly ok), all the drugs everything and yet still no baby. On their 3rd attempt at iui before commencing ivf, it suddenly happened. she is now in week 31 of her pregnancy and blooming
I sincerely hope none of us have to go through that and that we can all get our BFP's soon, but my sister gives me hope and reminds me that things happen when they are meant to, no matter how stressed we get ourselves
Good luck and lots of babydust.
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 10:25 am
My experience of doctors has put me off seeing them to be honest. I have PCOS but I'm having regular periods. I was given a blood test to see if I was ovulating. I went to the doctor a while after (having not heard from them) and was told that at the time they did the test, I wasn't ovulating.
However, the doctor then said "I've never understood how you can have a period and not ovulate!". Well, given that I've looked on the internet and read about annovulation (sp?) I'm slightly worried that a qualified medical professional doesn't understand it!
I think PCOS is a bit of a confusing condition for most doctors. It's one of those condtions that they don't fully understand so most of them talk rubbish.
My Ovulation Chart
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 10:40 am
Couldnt agree more Morgan. My doc (as do many) told me that getting pg was my cure for endo.....what [*@!#%*]!!! It CAN help in some cases but most it doesnt. He basically hadnt got a clue about the condition and just fobbed me off with different, useless drugs for ages. I went private in the end and ended up in London to see a specialist who was amazing and told me exactly what was going on before he had even done the op!!!
Never trust what your doc says as gospel....afterall they cant be experts on everything !! If you are worried, find a good specialist near you and see them. Apart from that, relax and enjoy ttc...its meant to be fun