Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 2:08 am
Post subject: plz i need urgent help !
hiz all of u..am a mother of a 6 months old girl ..& the problem is that since Lynn (my child) was born i used to sleep her beside me (on the same bed with my husb.) ..& now its becoming difficult bcoz with every single move she gets up (u know what i mean)..i bought her a small bed & put it close to ours but at the same time she will not sleep unless she is beside me (coz am breast freeding her through all the night)..u see?? i think i had the wrong chice from the beginning..so is it ltoo ate to do any thing that may help??? plz advice me...
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 8:29 am
i think it may just need alot of persistance with her staying in this bed. these little ones are very clever little monkeys and she has prob learned that when she cries you will put her in bed with you so she has learned that her behaviour will lead to that action - sorry that was me at my job - i was a nursery nurse for 10 yrs and now work with families experiencing behavoural issues with their children so i see this quite abit!!
eventually she will get used to sleeping in her own bed but it will need you to be very strong and sticking to your guns - which i realise is hard especially when she is crying and pulling on those heart strings but it will benefit her and you in the end
hope this helps
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 12:20 pm
you definatley can turn it around you just have to get used to the crying and be persistant it gets better after the first week. i think you really do need to deal with this now because else how on earth are you ever going to get her in her own room ???? i hope i have been of some help i went through similar with my daughter about a year ago she kept coming into our room and getting into bed with us. at first we gave in and let her stay and then it was hell when we had enough and started taking her back to her own bed. also i dont want to speak out of turn but at 6 months do you really need to be doing night feeds ????????????? good luck
Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 6:49 pm
my son who is nearly 2 is still sleepin in bed with us its a nightmare but just aint got the energy to try and stop him
( lazy) thats wat i am LOL
Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 8:25 am
thanx all 4 the reply.i hope i will get benifit of it although i know that i may not be strong enough to bear the crying & ignor it..i think i wont be a good mom if i just let her cry..& at the ame time i feel that i should be strict to not let her manibulate me...its tough work tto be a parent i think...
p.s. about the night feeds...is it wrong to go on wirth them?? i dont know..but she just keeps on getting up at night about 2 or 3 times & i feed her just to let her sleep again..is this wrong ???