Mistake maybe???
  Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 8:47 am
Post subject: Mistake maybe??? Evening all, now you have to be honest with your reply. My OH and I have been having issues, enough that I was pretty keen to separate. Well for no reason at all today I asked him if he wanted to try for a 2nd babe!! What was I thinking!! Do you think maybe I am trying to save the relationship by having another?? It was hard enough getting preg with Hunter let alone trying for another. The only other thing I can think of is since its been hard coping with some of Hunter health issues Im finally managing and getting back to my old self as he gets better. What do you think - Im grasping at straws trying to save the relationship?
_________________  Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 8:49 am
Post subject: wat did he say when u asked him
_________________ http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp1.png[img]http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp<a><img></a>1/.png[/img] Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 8:54 am
Post subject: he said he really wants to, he doesnt want us to split up anyway, that was more me. Maybe there was a bit of postnatal depression mixed in there you think? I just found everything to much to handle and he annoyed me just looking at him! LOL that sounds awful. He still does things to pee me off of course but I feel a little more in control.
_________________ Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:03 am
Post subject: i think all get like that sometimes if u dont want to split and he doesnt then just talk to him about how u r feelin
do u want to try for another baby _________________ http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp1.png[img]http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp<a><img></a>1/.png[/img] Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:07 am
Post subject: Sometimes I think a 2nd would be nice but then Hunter has another ruff day and I vow never to have another!! OH is trying a lot more now to be understanding, I actually think he had a male version of PND, possible?
_________________ Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:10 am
Post subject: oh def i think my hubby has it 11 months of the year LOL
i think it is nice to have children close in age my children r all born 3 years apart and they r so close my first was in 2000 then 2003 then 2006 LOL and if i do fall pregnant this year it will be born in 2009 how strange is that _________________ http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp1.png[img]http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp<a><img></a>1/.png[/img] Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:18 am
Post subject: yea having close together would be nice but id hate to get preg then split. I spose I should just leave it up to Mother Universe and see what happens!!!
Of course you will get preg this year but 2009 sounds sooo far away, you'd be preg forever it would seem  _________________ Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:20 am
Post subject: i doubt it hun my children all tend to come premature so it could still come this year
_________________ http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp1.png[img]http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp<a><img></a>1/.png[/img] Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:24 am
Post subject: i am the first to have a prem baby in my family so looks like a new thing LOL
my last baby was born at 30 weeks he weighed 2lb _________________ http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp1.png[img]http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp<a><img></a>1/.png[/img] Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:34 am
Post subject: WOW and your still going for more LOL your a champion!! I dont know if I could cope with all that it entails having a prem. Your babes must be all little fighters, you must have your hands full
Its coming up 10pm here so I shal sneak off to bed, Hunter has a cold so a little grump duing day and I need strength to have patience  Poor wee dude. Say hi to lillamb if she comes online. Had a real hard time getting comfy last night poor thing, I think it was 12am your time when she finally signed off!!! Night all and catch up tomorrow about todays goss!! Confusing a  _________________ Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:37 am
Post subject: LOL night it is only 10.35 in the mornin here i only got up about an hour an half ago
night _________________ http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp1.png[img]http://m1.lilypie.com/lCiQp<a><img></a>1/.png[/img] Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 9:44 am
Post subject: xx hey hunter's mummy lol.... iv woke up this morning with no pains at all maybe i did just need some sleep lol....i sunt brag evertime i brag i they come back...........was reading ya other post....sometimes a baby can make a family stronger bring u and ya husband closer tgether..........but i dont think i sud be giving out relenship advice lol.. all mine have ended bad..............nite hun prob talk tnite xx
Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 5:11 pm
Post subject: i think that you need to do what is right for you and your family. new babys are a big enough pressure if things are already a bit rocky you are only going to add more stress and a baby wont save a relationship that is already on the rocks. sorry but you asked for honest opinions and that is mine.i do hope that you can work things out and then go on and have another child, take care xx
_________________  Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 8:24 pm
Post subject: no offence taken at all, and goodmorning all, another cold wet day over here!! I been thinking the same thing actually. I have always believed that even when a child arrives you must put high priority on you marrige, because if you and OH are happy and working well together then bubs will benifit no end from such a positive enviroment and everything else flows naturaly off that. I am really beginning to think a bit of PND has crept in after such a ruff beginning for Hunter and not much support from family. Maybe I should talk to our plunket nursed before making a decision either way!!
Lillamb - so glad to hear your feeling better, was a little concerned for you. _________________
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