Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 9:55 am
Post subject: Help....dead pet advice!
Hi all. My sons hamster was dead this morning when we got up. It was over 2 yrs old so we knew it was on the cards but now its actually happened he is absolulty distraught. He cried all morning, on the way 2 school and even at school. I spoke 2 his teacher and she said he wil be better off at school than at home as it will take his mind off of it but she said he wil prob b upset again as soon as he gets home. Does anyone hav any advice on what i should do? Ive put it in a little box but is burying it really a good idea or not? I dont kno if i should just get rid of it so there is no evidence of it when he gets in but then again he might want 2 say goodbye 2 it. Nikki x
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 10:00 am
Post subject: xx
hiya im not a mum yet but i no when i was a kid and one of our pets died we always hada funreal 4 it in the back garden.....it helped us say goodbye and no that it was layed 2 rest propley...also i used 2 go out and talk 2 them wen i was upset ....lol.
i think waiting and burying it all together will be best x
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 10:05 am
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 10:09 am
Goodbye time sounds like the way. I was allowed to bury my 3 cats in the garden and choose a wee plant to put with them. Was a special place to go and talk to them too. Maybe he could make a wee plarc (spelling!!!) to put with it? Depends on what he would like to do but if you can, give him the chance to decide. Very sad.
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 11:18 am
A funeral is a great idea. I personaly thing that its great for kids to have pets and to lose them as it helps them deal with death and enables them to understand it more when other people die.
I'm sure your son will be fine and if he feels that he had a part to play in the funeral it should enable him to deal with the situation better.
Good luck as I'm sure he'll still be really upset whatever you end up doing
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 3:06 pm
I think a little burial is the way to go imo, what we always used to do.
On a practical note, if you have foxes round your way put a stone over where you bury your pet. When we were kids we buried a rabbit (not deep enough), the foxes dug him up and next day there were bits of rabbit scattered round the garden!! Not nice!!
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 3:10 pm
We hav buried her now. It was very sad. My son sat 4 half an hr with his hamster in a little box that we hav put her in. He sat stroking her. Not sure if thats a good or bad thing but he wanted 2. He wrote a note saying he will never forget her and wil always love her (thats the bit that got me crying!) and when he was ready we buried her. Ive never seen him cry so much. My other son being as tactful as he is, turned round and said "mum what pet are we getting next!" we are going 2 make a little cross and put it where she is buried x
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 3:24 pm
Aww bless him! What a sensitive little soul to write the little note!
I used to have rabbits and we had 7. Every year one would die but it was odd that the oldest one was 10yrs old the last to go. When he died I was 17 and was so upset and wanted to hold him before we buried him........bad idea!!! I was holding him and a bit of air escaped somewhere and he twitched and groaned!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dropped him and ran away screaming like a banshee to my dad that he was possessed! I wish i'd just petted him in a box like the other ones! xxxxxxx
I'm not on here all the time so if you need anything PM me Arch x
Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 9:43 pm
I did worry about her being dug up my an animal, we dont hav foxes around here but there r lots of cats about. I just hope she is deep enough! That must hav been awful having rabbit all around ur garden. Hopefully molly the hamster wil stay safe and buried. Yeah archie, he is very sensitive. Thats funny u should say that tho about the air as molly hybernated (spelt wrong i kno!) a while back and thought she had died. She kept making the odd twitch momenent and every now and then ud c her breathin. I rang the vet and she said they spasm 4 a few hrs after dying so we were just about 2 bury her when she jumped out of box and was alive and well!