Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 7:01 pm
Post subject: Can't Take It
I live in fear each time the baby cries because I know he'll want food. My breasts are killing me. They are bruised and sore, and I don't have a chance to heal. He's getting enough cos I feed him through the pain, but I am in tears because of it.
I've tried expressing, but that hurts as well and I don't get much out of it. I don't know what to do...I tried what all the books say to get him to latch correctly, and according to all the pictures and the instructions, he is latched on right....yet I'm still bleeding and bruised.
I'm crying as I type this. I'm at the end of my rope.
Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 7:09 pm
I'm sorry Dev I can relate...I kept trying different positions and the past week, they seem to be healing. I got a cream from my doctor to help with the scabbing and also use Lanolin cream. I unlatch him with my finger if he is 'chewing' and not sucking which hurts, or starts to get fussy. I also burp him more during feeding and have his head inclined with pillows so he's level with my breast. Now they're not hurting nearly as much.
Meeting with two lactation consultants helped a lot!
Good luck, I does get easier as your milk increases.
Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 10:36 pm
I'm so sorry for you and i should not have read this post cos i would just have to tell you to stop if its causing you that much pain that you are crying through feeding your baby. I have never breastfed myself and take my hat off to the women that do or at least try, i do realise that its "whats best" for babys but i have had 3 kids and not one of them have ever been seriously ill, they are not under nourished and we have a great bond. I jst think you are meant to be enjoying every second with your baby and it flies by so so quickly you dont wan tyour memories of feeding him to be pain fear and dread for the naxt time he's hungry. I really hope you start to feel better soon.
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:54 am
r u sure u aint got mastituos i dont know how to spell it lol its when u get an infection in your breasts i have had it and it is absoloutly agony if u have u will need antibiotics def get it checked cos it will get worse if u dont get it treated
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 9:01 am
Get in touch with your midwife and ask for a lactation consultant. Honestly, they are wonderful help and will be able to assist in healing you and getting things sorted. A nipple shield does wonders, I had to use one while I was still able to breast feed and it was fantastic. Well done you for sticking with it, your doing just fine and with a little help there will be no looking back. Best of luck Dev.
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 2:02 pm
aw Dev you poor love. Definitely get some help from a lactation nurse asap. You can buy Avent nipple shields in Boots. They don't always work, and apparently can reduce your flow a little so aren't recommended long term - but are probably worth a try for you just to ease the pain and allow you a chance to heal.
If you find you need to stop and switch him to formula then do it, and don't beat yourself up over the decision. My SIL persevered through terrible PND, soreness and similar pain to you - crying through feeds etc, and she says it was the worst decision she ever made, and if she had the time again she would have switched Talia to formula after about a week.
Try to stay positive hun - don't underestimate what a traumatic decision stopping breastfeeding is for any mum, but you really can't keep going as you are, you have to do what's right for you both.
I really hope things improve soon hun
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 2:06 pm
Dev, I was excatly the same, I came so close to giving up.
My midwive sat with me for ages whilst I was feeding and helped me to put my little girl on properly. She also told me to use lanolin (spelling) and that has worked wonders, I put it on after every feed. Also make sure you are changing your breast pads regulary as your nipples will hurt more if they are left wet. Try to let the air get to them as much as possible.
The other major thing i was doing wrong was that I was holding her up to high, sort of past my nipple, make sure your baby is right under your nipple as they tip their heads back to latch on.
I am now feeding sucessfully and am so much happier, it just kinda clicked with us both.
I hope you can get it sorted as it is the most special thing a mother and baby can do together.
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 4:57 pm
Oh Dev, I so sympathise. Although I am not in pain like you, I have been crying through some feeds. I am just so exhausted with feeding, and I haven't had nearly the problems you have. Do try and find some help, I went to a breast feeding drop in clinic run by the breast feeding network, and also talked a lot to my health visitor, it has helped me so much. I am still getting upset and exhausted, but at least know I'm doing things right. I am trying to persevere because I know it's best for Poppy, but I also know that when I decide to give up, it will be because it is more important for her to have a happy, relaxed mum, than a stressed one who is crying all the time. We both have to do what is best for us and our babies. Don't beat yourself up if you need to stop breast feeding, but do try and get help, speak to your midwife or health visitor and I'm sure they'll put you in contact with someone who can help.
Take care, and be asured you are not alone.
Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:42 pm
I'm sorry to hear you are in lots of pain, I really sympathise.
I had a difficult time breastfeeding my daughter... in the end i couldn't do it and she wasn't getting enough to drink.
I spoke to my midwife and she literally bullied me into carrying on with breast as 'it's best!' but I was losing the will to live! In the end I told HER I was going to bottle feed. She was not happy but I wasn't going to be bullied into something I wasn't comfortable doing and by someone I didn't know!
If you want to bottle feed then do so, don't feel ashamed or pressurised into doing it if you find it too hard.
But I'm sure it will get easier as your breasts get more and more used to feeding. Try a breastfeeding drop in or just chat to your GP, midwife or health visitor.
I hope things get easier soon. Good luck
Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 9:57 pm
i haven't breast fed before but my mum had loadsa trouble with me and nearly gave up after 10 days but carried on when her midwife told her to run a shower of warm damp flannel down her breasts towards her nipples. I duno if that works for everyone but i think it worked for my mum as some milk had blocked her breast, you could try it tho or i think someone else suggested nipple covers which are also supposed to be good.
If you do have to change to formula don't feel bad as formula is really good nowadays and you've obviously done the best for Dylan and given him the best start! He needs a happy, comfortable mummy not a sad, in pain mummy!
Good luck honey xxxx
Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 12:32 pm
owh dev, i really feel for you, i had exactly the same, i have very sensitive nipples anyway and everytime my daughter cried for food i started crying and the midwife told me that i should stop as the baby would pick up on the fact that i wasn't enjoying it, and you should be happy to feed your baby not upset. do whats right for you and dylan