Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 11:32 am
I would say (if you've got a close family) surround urself with them! or good friends!
if all else fails come on here and I'm sure someone will know what you've been thru or are going thru - it can be a great place for advice or just a bit of understanding.
Good luck xx
Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:32 pm
I have some experience, DH was away until babies were about 6 months so had to look after them on there own. The best thing I can suggest is ask for help when you need it, people will want to help and you cant always manage on your own! You dont want to struggle on and feel misrable. Make sure you get somebody, eg family member or friend, to look after the baby every once in a while, you need sometime to your self away from the babies, trust me it will do you a world of good =]
Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 3:09 pm
hi im a single mum of 2 and a 3rd on the way..
it is hard work but so rewarding,especially when some1 complements on theyr behaviur and you know thats down to your hard work!
having family & friends supportin u will help.but it does get lonely even with kids about.
you kind of just have to get ur head down and deal with what uv got to deal with & show all the people who didnt think u cud do it that u can,bein a single parent isnt the end of the world its just that little bit harder,ul get funny looks too and strangers will give u the 'pity' look.
iv been on my own for 3hf yrs ish (this 1 was a 1niter) and my eldest daughter has moved up to the young and giftd group at skule so i must be doin something ok.
ul have times of feelin guilty about being on ur own and the child misses out on their father,well i do with the youngest 1,but then i look at how many contributions each father has made time & money wise and both havnt made that much.im so glad im doin on my own,i think they would rather have a happy mum.they will no when theyr older that all that we'v achievd was by our own hard work
hope it helps
Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 4:11 pm
I am a single first time mum and I was scared at the very thought of having to do this on my own.
It is not that bad, i have a very suportive mum and a very close best friend that have helped me so much.
Take any help that is offered to you as it can be a bit stressful having to do everything on your own. My health visitor gave me loads of info on groups that i could join so i wont get lonely. Also Surestart are great, they have loads going on all the time so you get to meet other mums and have a grown up chat!!!
Dont think that you are ever on your own as there is always people around to offer you help and advice, especially on here