Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 6:49 pm
Post subject: Getting me down
My boyfriend never wants to sleep with me.
I know this isnt an imprtant thing in a relationship, but im starting to really need the comfort of a man.
He says he has problems down there. Although he can still get himself off to p*rn. Im not feeling my best anyway as im pregnant and putting on alot of weight
We've had this problem for a while. I get alot of attention off guys and Ive never looked another way, but now Im finding it really hard to cope without feeling needed.
I dont know what to do. Please can somebody give me some advice
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 6:57 pm
Post subject: xx
well i dunno if my advice will b any good cse im only 18 n never been good in relenshipes but ill try
sos 2 hear ya feeling like this. as it been since u was pregnant maybe he feels funny cse there is a baby in there. i no alot ov women tht sed there parnters went off sex cse they was pregnant.
maybe a nice bath and sum candles will get him going or u cud trt my way "IF I DONT GET SEX SOON I SWEAR ILL GO ELSE WERE" but thts prob my imaturity showing lol
rem tho jus cse ur preggys dnt mean ur nt sexy xx
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 7:27 pm
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 7:33 pm
Post subject: xx
i think sex is more inportant in a relenship then wt ppl think. its away of feeling close 2 ur parnter. im sure wen all the girls see this u will get loads ov gud advice tho im stuck cse im abit mental n wud just say pay me attention or get out. thts why my relenships never work lol xxxxx
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 7:36 pm
well see im starting to say things like that, as im at the end of my tether. We have always had these issues. But they have never bothered me like they are doing now.
Im just feeling really really low at the minute and i feel awful as i dont want my baby picking up on these arguments and how low im feeling. Everyday I feel like im having a breakdown. And if my boyf would just give me some love and make me feel nice.. let me know im not doing this alone i would feel alot better.
Sorry to whinge and moan, but i dont really have that many ppl to speak to xxx
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 7:41 pm
Thats difficult really isnt it??? Has he medical problems that you already know about or is he just using that as an excuse, anyone would feel neglected if they are constantly 'turned down' does he show you any affection like kissing/cuddling or is it intimacy of any kind???
Lillamb think we would all get to that point - frustration is not good especially when you are a pregnant raging hormonal woman (like me) lol
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 7:56 pm
Well he has said it in the past that he has problems. but he ownt go to the docs because of 'embarrassment'
Its got to the point now, when we do actually have sex his penis always goes soft and i just feel my heart sink again. Happened so much recently.
Even with my big bump im still gettin wolf whistled at.. i could go elsewhere but im not that sorta lady!
I used to have to turn him on when he was asleep so i could get a decent 'jump' (ant find appropriate language lol) but i used to think... and who the hell does he think hes scr*wing!!
Now hes just not doing it with me, i always have to initiate it. He watches porn all the time, but has no problem getting off to that. I feel awful.
I dont get as many hugs and kisses anymore. I have to ask for them. I have never wanted a guy to wrap his arms around me like I do now.
Sorry for the whinge but im quite upset tonight xxxx
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 8:09 pm
Oh bless you hun, I really dont know as obviously everything works if he can get off on porn, I can imagine how [*CENSORED*]**d off you are feeling, you sound quite open minded so have you watched/read it together?? I would say though it deffo sounds like his problem but now its affecting you - think I would be laying it on the line as s e x is a very important part of a relationship along with feeling wanted.
He needs to bite the bullet and see his GP if this carries on - my best friends ex went to see a psycho sexual counsellor as these things have a habit of getting worse before they get better.
Only a suggestion but seen it on the tv!!! Can you talk to him and stick to just foreplay for say a week get him turned on and then walk away before you would usually get down to it so there is no expectation of him.........maybe he feels pressure to perform unlike when he pleases himself with the porn he can be as [*@!#%*] as he likes???
Hope that isnt too personal - but would be p*ss(d off in your shoes hun.
Posted: Fri Aug 08, 2008 9:06 pm
You got it in one Flossie lol.
Feeling extremely p*ssed off!!
Yeah I have tried everything. Got in some kinky underwear, even when it didnt fit..lay on the sofa for when he walked in. He walked in, smiled and sat on the sofa and started moaning about something.
Ive exhuasted everything on him, is not easy when im pregnant. Given oral too many times without any in return. Given him massages. Went and bought some nice bubble bath, ran the bath he got in.. and rolled his eyes when i started to get undressed.
I went through the phase of thinking its me its me. But im a good looking girl. Better than hes ever had. But im strting to feel hes only staying with me for the sake of the baby.
And with these hormones and wanting sex all the time im in a predicament! I dont want to go elsewhere, but have never needed a good seeing to soooo bad!!!
Ill try the GP thing, hopefully he will go and see somebody. Itll still be in my head though.. he just doesnt fancy me. Im not sexy enough.
But hey cant win em all eh? thanks for ur replies girlies.. just needed to get it off my chest xxx